How much advice should you give to your daughter/son regarding babies and parenting?

Hand on heart I have only ever offerred up my views on any given subject if it has been introduced by my Daughter. I usually just say what I did with them when they were a similar age. I dont think I claimed I was ever absolutely right about anything because its all about perception. Recently my daughter reminded me that she had started school wearing red sandals instead of brown or balck ones (the school had a uniform policy but nothing specific about shoes at that time). I can remember thinking at the time that she was so lucky to have red sandals because I had always wanted some at that age (5). Her memories had been of feeling embarrassed and wanting brown ones like the other children. I had thought I was being a fun Mum but she had seen it in quite a different light. I've never been asked outright about anything - just used as a sort of sounding board for decisions already made. I dont think I've ever said 'I think you should........etc etc'. Mind you I honestly think my daughter are doing a brilliant job. I might have the odd reservation about a couple of things but they are only minor and really not my business.

Somewhere betweeen none and none, in my experience. My favoured way is to listen to what she wants to do and say what a good idea that is.

I looked to see what I said first time round on this thread and decided I was right! Never give unasked for advice unless there's a threat to the child's well-being.

Speldnan,
I raised my babies the way your daughter is doing with her baby (much to the chagrin of my own mother!) I think it is a quite natural and normal way to behave...except that in a more "natural" parenting environment, there would be many more hands to help!
Independence and "space" will come in it's own sweet time.
It's great that you are there when they need you.
My guys grew up to be considerate, warm and mellow human beings, and they both picked wives to match their personalities. One set are parents now and I am delighted, proud and comforted by how well they are doing. My d-i-l is much more obsessive than my son about "proper" parenting, but that is mostly about being uber-organic and no-sweets, that sort of thing. I do wish she'd relax a bit more...but she has a 2 year old and a 2 month old and the whole hormone thing going on...so who am I to say! I just wish I was allowed to give my granddaughter some ice cream once in awhile!
Is is okay for grandparents to "cheat" and give the kids sweets once in awhile? They live in California and I only see them a few times a year.
I envy you - being able to see your grandchild every week!
Enjoy!