I don't know if some of you will remember me , but had a bad year last year and things regarding my Grandson still are not resolved
I have settled SO well into my new home , to the point I got myself a puppy to add some real joy to my life which he indeed has the little sweetie!
I have been concentrating on my own health and wellbeing while my Grandson is in foster care
He has been in foster care for ( long ) 6 months now and I see him most weeks for 2 hours at a contact centre with my daughter
Things have and haven't improved for my daughter , what I mean is things have ''seemingly'' improved for her ie she is doing and saying all the right things and yet her behaviour / stability / rational thinking still is nowhere near on top form...
She threatened to remove him from care over Christmas which social services and myself did NOT agree to and thankfully she listened to them in the end
She has now booked herself into outpatient rehab ''to get her son back'' which is GOOD but part of me feels uneasy as she thinks it is a speedy formula to get her son back , but she was still drinking up till very recently and throughout the whole 6 months he has been in foster care
Her parenting worker told her she HAS to be clean for at least 9 months before they even consider returning him and I agree with this
She is now saying that nomatter what anyone says she is removing her son from care in 11 weeks time as soon as she finishes the detox course
I still feel this is WAY too early as that is just step 1 of the recovery process which is potentially a long or even very long step 2 ie becoming permanently well
In the meantime as ever it is my Grandson and the rest of the family who are suffering
My other daughter has not seen her nephew for 6 months now and my Grandson has not seen any family members apart from his Mum and me for 6 months now and he was so happy with us , it is so unfair on him
I have reached the end of my patience with my daughter now as she is not rational at all , is still abusive and all over the place , has a new boyfriend who is on weekend leave from prison for murder ( great! ) and up to recently was still driving under the influence and putting the public and herself at risk
I think it may be time to go to court to try and get a special guardianship order for my Grandson , have really had enough now
We have a family group conference on Tuesday part of which is meant to be to discuss possible family members having my Grandson but she refuses to talk or enter into any conversation about this as she is ''taking him back in 11 weeks time'' even if she has to go to court
I have done everything I can to advise her to work with social services and not lose her parental responsibility for her own sake but she is not taking my advice at all
If she can't have him no-one can ( apart from the foster carer ) and the only thing she will consider is moving in with a family member with my Grandson which none of us will agree to ( due to the stress levels!! )
She wants everything on her terms ''or else'' but her or else is actually cutting off her nose to spite her face as if she worked patiently with social services , proved she was off the drink and weed long term , did the hair strand tests all coming back clear , then she would be in a MUCH better position and would gain everyones trust and have more privileges ie longer visits etc with her son , but she wants him back soon which I understand but it is too soon and not in my Grandsons best interests at all
My problem is I failed the assessment with SS who said they are going to look at it again but there is so much negative stuff about me already in the reports that I don't know if it can be overturned by them or whether they will even consider overturning the previous reports which did not work in my favour
All I have done is put one foot in front of the other slowly moving forward , staying calm and consistent and I actually love MY life ie my lovely calm and peaceful routined home life ( and Autistic children need peace , calm and order ) but I am not perfect and nor was my past which scares me but I just want to be given a chance and be given a chance to be heard
I have done some jolly good grieving and crying over my 3 losses last year and have made heaps of progress on a personal level but not sure if it is enough to work in my favour and my daughter will dish every bit of dirt she has on me and doesn't want me to have him as I am on the 'side' of the authorities , who unfortunately I still as yet don't feel are on my side , even though I have done everything I can and will continue to do little step by little step
Sorry it's long any help or advice would be greatly appreciated as I am not looking forward to the meeting on Tuesday but will stay calm and think of my Grandson throughout as he is everything this is about! :-) x
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