Thank you FarNorth , you are right , it does a lot of good as does facing all my emotions and dealing with them
It is just that there have been an ONSLAUGHT of them for this past year , then some respite and calm , then some more
I honestly don't think my heart will be at TOTAL peace until my GS is back in the family
The 'respite' from the emotions means they are still there building up inside and then from time to time I have to let them out until the next lot comes
It is a stressful and exhausting time because it never FULLY lets up as in there is always the next thing or the next time but we all know what would SOLVE it for good xx
I just want my family back!!! And for the stress to stop , it has not let up much for the past few years to be honest!!
At one time in my life I was living it up , partying , going on holiday and mostly felt I didn't have a problem in the world and if I did they were MINOR ones compared to THIS , my biggest problem wasn't big and I was so fortunate for a while but I wonder how much of it during that time was simply 'ignoring' the problems or hoping they would resolve themselves somehow not get worse , but alcoholism / a drink problem isn't like that , it doesn't go away all on it's own in fact it is a progressive illness and only gets WORSE without treatment and I did not realise that or that a drinking problem could descend so quickly and seriously into full blown alcoholism
This social butterfly is now a tortoise slowly plodding along day by day , moving forward nonetheless even though it does not seem to be recognised , seen or acknowledged by others it is like no one has even noticed! lol
I have put such hard work in and I can see the results and progression , it just seems like no one else can which gets a bit disheartening as I think I am doing very well under the circumstances but no one really says that to me or even seems to see it
I thought my progress would be 'evident' to others but sadly it isn't , maybe when an alcoholic makes progress it is noticeable but those who are AFFECTED by it it seems you are just left to it and no one cares if you progress or not and all the focus is on the alcoholics progress not the ones who are affected by it and it has a profound affect in many ways but you are just left to deal with it , or not , but I have to progress for my own sake and just HOPE it has an affect on the possibility of me being able to have my GS in the future
I keep myself well for my sake AND his sake so I just hope it pays off!
It is frustrating when people don't see the good , only the bad but the bad is actually something which has been MISCONSTRUED and not the actual truth , it's like if I say the wrong WORD it is used against me or how I put things is taken in a completely different way than how I put it! lol
They have been asking me questions now on the contact visits like does my Grandson play on his own? Does he get bored? What does he do when you are busy with the housework? How do you know what he likes and doesn't like? How much is he on his ipad? Comments are made about how well the foster carer is doing with him and about this particular contact staffs previous job and what the clients she worked with did and said to her , she even told me about someone she knew who was an alcoholic and they tried to help her but couldn't ... I DON'T NEED THIS PERSONAL INFORMATION thank you , NONE of the other staff QUESTIONED us at all let alone so much they just left us to it and took notes ie they were professional , this one chats to us throughout the visit about all sorts of stuff and I don't even understand what she is getting at with the questions
I can't and won't complain as it just causes more trouble for me and I don't have a choice in this whole process so I just have to bear with it and concentrate on spending time with my Grandson on my visit but they have given us this same woman every week now , my DD loves her because she is chatty - I find her extremely unprofessional and I don't trust her and what she is writing down in answer to her 'questions' and I don't understand WHY as NONE of the others EVER questioned us about my GS why this one does it? TBH She SPOILS the visits for me and that is the newest reason I have been upset recently and come home upset after the visit
She even told us she thinks she has ADHD!! She butts into mine and my DD's conversations with her 2 pence worth but I don't know why we have her every week now as we used to have some nice professional staff I felt COMFORTABLE with , this one is too much in your face and it is not her face I have come to see!