Am trying to get along with the foster carer as much as possible and am glad about that BUT today she said her nephew said ''You now have 3 children'' ( Not sure who he said the other two were but he said their names and then the name of my GS too )
Now I am NOT upset at a child for saying that at all , just the fact ;
1/ She didn't correct him and say that my GS was NOT her child but that she was looking after him for someone else / another family for a while
and 2/ That she chose to TELL us that , like she has got 3 children now , including my GS
Thankfully my DD didn't get upset as she said it to both of us together but to say she has been told she has 3 children ( including my DD's child / my GS ) and for her not to correct those ''facts'' I don't find it acceptable to be honest and ANOTHER family might have not taken it so nicely!
She has NOT got three children if she wants to include my GS , she is TEMPORARILY CARING for him which does not mean she ''has my GS'' as her child , maybe am being touchy but how you word things and what you disclose to the family and for WHAT REASON ( one which I cannot comprehend ) do you disclose those things?
Another Mum may have bitten her head off if she had said that about their child and it was like she was agreeing with the statement , endearing from an innocent child , not so much from a foster carer to two family members without saying she gently put him right factually not went along with it and then disclose it to the family like it was a 'fact' which went undisputed
Am going to ignore it obviously but it does upset me and I go to the contact centre CHEERFUL even though my heart is BREAKING and ACHING but that does not mean it does not have an affect on me having someone else look after my GS and she is cheerful too but I guess she has NO IDEA of the pain I ( and his Mum ) are in , yet a little sensitivity wouldn't go amiss especially in the job she is in!
I am a bit angry as I was a bit hurt and could do without any extra hurt in regards to my GS right now
( He actually said you have 3 children , 3 dogs and a hamster now and she may have 2 children , 3 dogs and a hamster but she does not 'have' my GS as her child ) I know my GS has very much become part of the family but they do have to remember that HE ISN'T and they ALL will probably miss him as he gets together with the extended family a LOT but she does need to prepare the whole of the family for him leaving too , she may have some very upset nephews etc when my GS leaves if she allows them to think he is part of the family now!
And once again I am thinking about her family being upset when my heart is actually ruddy BREAKING being away from my GS but she is not considering or even being understanding of THAT , surely any foster carer must understand how hard it is for the family members who are away from their much loved one like this and be SENSITIVE to it? It could also be part of their training??