discipline

I use the nana look on Mr Rosesarered sometimes.

I look after my grandsons one day a week, since I started setting an alarm on my phone when it's time to get ready for school and nursery, I haven't had any arguments.

Cosafina-- hear hear !!

I have a stern look too - a "shriveller" as DH and DSs refer to it. Trouble is, it doesn't seem to have much effect on DGCn. In fact DGD, 28mths, now has an even more scary glare of her own that she turns on me when she is thwarted!

My house, my rules, works quite well for me, especially as I almost always look after DGCs at my house, but when I looked after them at their house some six months ago, DGS (then 3.5 yrs) was very quick to say "but that isn't a rule in our house, Grandma" when I asked them to do something that didn't meet with their approval. Don't you just love 'em

My biggest 'discipline' tool is a long-term one - no matter how much screaming (or other behaviour designed to wear me down so that they can have their way) they do, I will not be swayed once I have issued a firm instruction. As a result, that kind of behaviour is now rare when I'm in charge. They save it all for when their dad, and particularly their mum, are in charge.
That said, I save those firm instructions for when it matters (and when I am in a position to see it through) - most of the time I am very flexible and happy to let them have a say in what we do and when we do it. The last thing I want is for them to grow up thinking of me as the wicked, authoritarian grandma! That would be awful

I take DGS to Sunday School sometimes and he just will not behave during the first 15 mins in the Church before the children go downstairs.
I often take him straight to the hall and wait for the rest of the children to come down.
Our new Finnish assistant minister was taking part of the service on Sunday and her 4 year old, sat quietly through the service with his Father.
I complimented them on his behaviour, Dad showed me his pockets, full of little treats and small toys.
We decided that bribery and blackmail of the under 5s must be somewhere in the Bible if we looked hard enough.
They are both Ministers so he has grown up going to Church.

I used that approach with my children at church felice - plus drawing/colouring books. It seems unfair to expect youngsters to sit quietly and surely ensures they hate church

Cosafina, spot on. We've discussed that with their parents- and they agree that they do not want us to 'bribe' the children with goodies- as they do not do that themsselves (well rarely) - I feel it is unfair of grandparents to undermine that.

My DGSs are nearly 5 and 20 months; the big one isn't such a problem as he can tell the time, but the baby.... fortunately, he usually lets me know when he's ready to leave the playgroup I take him to one day a week, and when it is going to be time to get the bigger one from school, I start saying things like "Soon-soon we will be going to get him from school", "Not quite yet, but soon it will be time to get our coats and shoes on!" until eventually it's, "I'm just going to have a wee, and when I come downstairs, we will be going to school." And fortunately he loves putting his coat and shoes on (not so necessary, this weather), so that is fun. Plus although he'll have had his nap by then, he's usually ready for a bit of downtime, and sitting in his pushchair telling me about everything he can see, provides this.