Guilty and looking for coping methods

Good post leonora47. I hope supernanny hasn't done a runner as there are some very encouraging posts on here

for you Leonora47, and for all the Grandparents on this thread, supergrans all.

Try singing when you change him, just something funny and silly. It will help blow the smell away and put you in a different headspace and make it fun for him too! Maybe jinglebells

My son and DIL would love me to have their children overnight. To be honest I struggle to look after them during the day for short periods. One is still in nappies. I think there is a lot of pressure on us grans to do childcare, yet we've been there done that, got the t-shirt.

As you get older it does get more difficult, for whatever reason. It's just how it is. When you're young you cope. You have to, they are your children. Grandparents are not obliged to look after small children. It's so much more difficult for us, yet no one seems prepared to acknowledge that fact!

I always refuse to have any grandchildren to stay. I just couldn't cope and I refuse to feel guilty about it. End of!!!

I think it partly depends on whether you have a husband/partner. What seems daunting for one often seems possible for two even if the other is a "sleeping partner".I find it very difficult to get up from a sitting position holding a baby and need someone to pass it to.

Wish I could have mine to stay but distance is too great. DGD1 did come to stay when she was little and was as good as gold. Even at the age of 10 she was happy making structures out of a big cardboard box and always loved baking in my kitchen. She'll be 24 two weeks from today.