How involved were you with your children's weddings?

DD1 paid for much of her wedding I paid for her dress and the bridesmaids dresses ad jewellery for her and her sister to wear.I paid for the photographer and flowers and the bar bill for the evening. She came with me to buy my outfit and I was involved in lots of discussions but she made the decisions

DD2 has not got married

You future DIL is being polite in involving you even if she isn't taking on board what you suggest very similar to mine in fact,my DS1 gets married for the first time in June this year abroad and she has organised everything,I have had whispers of the dress design but never asked to go dress shopping etc she went with her mum and bridesmaid so I have just stayed in the background smiling sweetly,when DS2 married they involved me in every way and things went very well except for me wanting a red suit and being told sorry it will clash with other mums suit so a change had to be made but all turned out beautifully in the end,enjoy the day and best wishes to the couple for the future.

Not very involved as both daughters had been living with their partners for several years and already had a child, they knew what sort of wedding they wanted. I helped out with dresses, alterations etc. as I'm a seamstress, and we gave them some money.

No involvement at all in my sons wedding. I wasn't asked to help choose the dress and my daughter was very upset that I wasn't allowed to go to the fitting of her bridesmaids dress.
Was I miffed? Yes. But at least I didn't spend hours and hours visiting florists, photographers and shoe shops.
Did I enjoy the wedding? Yes, I went as an honoured guest and was able to relax and not worry about anything.
Most important of all, after 13 years they are still very happily married and have 3 gorgeous children.
Let's be honest - the wedding day doesn't really matter at all.

Like lots of other posts, I had no input in my own wedding but was made to pay for half of it. My brother was married a few years before me and my Dad got the hump so he made me and my boyfriend pay exactly half of the total cost. My parents then invited all their own friends as well and we were still paying off the wedding six months later. My DS married into a very rich family so we went with the flow but it was lovely. My DD had to bring her wedding forward as she was expecting a baby and we paid for it all but had a super time. I'm sure it will be wonderful and you will look fabulous as the bride's new MIL.

Very very involved in DDs' wedding, looking after 3 month old DGS, cooking all food for 180 people at the lunchtime buffet, making table covers for the evening reception, buying the bridesmaids dresses, going home early in the evening to look after DGS and me as I had not long had a knee replacement op.
Very appreciated, then X turned up the day before the wedding, flights paid for by MY best friend, plus accomodation and swaned around as though he owned the bloody place.
Then complained no one spoke to him. My friends were furious and DDs just did not know him. Also managed to get his face in most of the photos, I was staying at DDs the night of the wedding and he was supposed to be at my friends, he decided instead to sleep on DDs' sofa and when I got up to feed DGS during the night he went to the toilet, discovered i was sleeping in a double bed got in and said "if i get hard slap me" I am sure I do not need to tell everyone on here my reaction to that.
Sorry for the rant it still rankles a bit as DF and I only arranged for him to come over as a gift for DD, just a little appreciation would have been nice. He even complained because we bought him Ryanair flights instead of scheduled.

My DD and SiL went to the Caribbean and had the wedding they wanted, no one else involved, no relatives or friends. They gave me, and SiL's mother, each champagne so that we could (in our different parts of the country) toast them at the appropriate time. We were both perfectly content with this, they had the wedding they wanted, and a lovely holiday at the same time. ?

Not at all, which suited me nicely! I did go to the dress choosing for #1 son's wedding, but the others all did their own thing.