Two threads in one here ...
Patriciaann I do think you need to have confidence in yourself and your relationship to date. As others have said, little ones can test and try us out , especially if we have laid down our own expectations. I think your little GS will soon come round again and it is important that you are consistent. Just go on being the lovely granny / (nanny?) you are and I think the smiles will soon be back. I haven't had to cross this bridge with a GC yet, but it happened with a toddler that I was child minder to.
I do wonder about how things will pan out with the 'other granny' as she is the local one, but I know my Cs all built lovely relationships with both of their grannies so I expect to do the same really.
Gemmag, my DD and SIL have expressly said no photos on FB and to be honest I am glad. Even though we have the tightest privacy settings, I feel anything we put on social media is open to abuse. I recently opened up my account (don't use it much) and 'FB' had created a slide show for me of 'your favourite memories' - basically raiding my pictures! That felt like an invasion in itself. It's a tricky one - I just wouldn't want to take the risk. I am sorry that your DIL handled it so badly though. I hope you can revisit the subject with her if only to finally put it to bed ... seems left open at the moment.
When I read your last post I thought how lovely that you think so highly of your DD in so many ways. Are you able to tell her - even by email - that you think she is doing a really good job? And do you think she would take it as genuinely, kindly meant rather than patronising? I just wonder if it is a way to build bridges.
I feel I have had to gently prod my daughter to be mindful of her MIL a couple of times - not because she is insensitive at all - just because I know her MIL needed to be invited in more demonstratively when first GS was born. She is a lovely nanny, but so worried about imposing - this could easily have been misread as her being standoffish, but if both parties are treading round each other something needs to change for things to improve. Sorry if any of this is misplaced / clumsy -I am just sorry for you that things are a bot awry at the moment
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