Do you tell all?

I report less and less as my granddaughter gets older (5 now). When she was a tiny baby I told my DIL every gurgle, feed, nappy etc. as I often had her for a full 24 hrs or more. Now I only report the fun we've had and any accidents or illness. My son & dil are happy with that as they trust me to always do the right thing by her.

hi i have looked after my granddaughter 2 days every week since her mum went back to work 6 months ago and she goes 2 nursery 2 days a week . my DD used to text me asking what she had for meals and how much sleep she has had as SIL usually picks her up and forgets to tell her so i got a small book and write in what she had for lunch and tea and what naps she had so they know what she has eaten. i find this the best way and don't get texts all the time. when she at nursery they get a slip every day saying what she has eaten. what i do with her the rest of the time is up to me.

Well yes, I suppose I exaggerated! She doesnt really demand, just asks from time to time and it works both ways as I can ask for help and advice from her too like where are the wipes! Yes its a first baby, still Very young and mum only recently gone back to work. Things are calming down now as she settles into work and baby gets used to me. I think texting is really good - i wish it had been around when I had small children!

Oh dear .... I think I've been doing it all wrong. So I'm going to follow the general consensus on here and in future will try to only mention positive stuff.

I'm so pleased I read this thread ..... As now realise I've definitely been guilty of 'too much information' so a big thank you to all

When I was minding toddler DGS1 we were at soft play and he had his face pinched hard by an older child. I was watching him and thought DGS was just talking to this boy. When I moved near the boys mother had grabbed him and taken him away. By the mums reaction I got the impression he had done this before. I reported the incident to the owner.

It was awful telling his mum when she rang in her lunch break. He had big bruises on his cheeks. I felt dreadful but there was not much I could do. DD was ok about it. I still feel bad. He probably has no memory of it.

DD is quite anxious and dgd is under 1. I give her updates throughout the day about length of naps, whether dgd had a decent amount of breakfast/lunch etc and what she's been up to along with pics of her playing and out and about. I don't do regular childcare as I'm in Yorkshire and they're in London.

Sounds very similar to my situation Siezetheday!

Regarding the original question, I would respect the GC's confidentiality in the hope that some day they may wish to confide in me and discuss something they feel they could not with their parents and would trust me.

When DS was about 5 he was being looked after by my MIL while we were at the school parents evening. There was a slight 'disagreement' when he asked for a chocolate bar from the kitchen cupboard and MIL said no. We got back to find her locked in the kitchen banging on the door to the lounge while he was sitting happily watching tv. Well, when things calmed down, I slipped him the chocolate bar but told him not to tell nana. Of course he gleefully marched into the lounge grinning as he waved the offending chocolate in her face!!

So you thoroughly undermined mother-in-law and rewarded your son for locking her in the kitchen! A great lesson for him to learn.

And did your MIL ever help you out again?

What happens in Nannies house, stays in Nannies house

This was 30 years ago and I have 'matured' since then. And despite my appalling lack of parenting skills DS is a lovely man who I'm very proud of Yes my MIL did help out again because this wasn't exactly crime of the century. I obviously remember it so well because I'm aware that I made a mistake but hey, life goes on. Nobody's perfect eh? But I'll think twice before I comment again!

Me and my mum have had many arguments because she's not interested in following some ground rules I have at home. She said drunk the the other night to me that if we gave my eldest the choice she would move in with her.. yep of course mum, you don't make her eat healthy meals, don't make her brush her teeth, don't make her do homework, you don't parent her you grandparent her.. which is totally different!! If my daughter lived with my mum with the complete lack of boundaries set by her then my dd would be so far out of control my mum couldn't cope.

I'm very annoyed with her over this ATM!! I don't mind a bit of fun at nans of course but making out she likes her more is a joke- she's lucky I let it go as she was drunk ha ha