Mortaff, I felt like you when y first grandsons were thrust upon me and whilst I bought the obligatory pram, cooed over baby I felt as if I want ready for this responsibility. However ten years down the line I now have nine grandchildren, ten soon and reassured that my actual responsibilities are few but the smiles, the outstretched arms from toddlers make it all worthwhile. Remember a time with your boys that was very special to you - chances are the ages associated with your boys will be replicated with your grandchild. It has made me greater friends with my children too, shared moans and happy times, memories come flooding back of their childhoods. It will be OK, if you don't want to be hands on then don't be and don't worry about it.