Good for you icbn.
FullH3art* - I feel your response shows sadly limited supportive as I could be to my DD1. My post was also met with some derision and insensitivity that nearly put me off CN for good at the time.
This should be a safe and kindly space to explore what is sometimes complex and emotionally charged territory. I understanding. When I first joined GN I voiced similar anxieties - all part of trying to work out how to be as for one was distressed and really knocked off kilter to find myself reacting negatively to certain dynamics surrounding the birth if my first grandson. I did not expect any negatives at all and certainly did not want to burden my DD with my own 'issues' so sought advice here.
Funnily enough, in my experience of raising four children, teaching hundreds, supporting new mothers, bereaved families and people with mental health difficulties, the concept of 'get over yuorself' has never yet proven to be helpful ...
If you read around other threads ... I think feeling the need to address this / defend people in need was the beginnings of my grumpy-woman-syndrome today!
I have wanted to give a measured response and am sorry if I have failed, but I passionately believe it is okay to express sadness, weakness and doubt and not unreasonable to expect it to be met with compassion and kindness.
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Good Morning Thursday Maundy Thursday 28th March 2024