It goes on and on...

I understand that she wants him and I feel for her. But right now, it seems as if you're the better "parent" for him. I hope and pray you get guardianship.

No matter how she lies, it will be hard for your d to "fool" the hair strand tests, etc. So if she's being deceitful, hopefully, it will be found out and she will not be getting gs back right now.

Lisalou there are 2 processes which will be going on side by side my daughter will be assessed for reunification and I will be assessed for guardianship so if reunification is denied then as long as I pass the assessment I should be granted guardianship but it all depends on the judge

Thanks so much I don't really have anyone to talk to so am going to see if I can arrange some weekly counseling for myself as I am dealing with very difficult circumstances and a lot of different emotions especially having to supervise contact which I HATE it is horrible being somewhere and hating every minute yet gritting my teeth for 6.5 to 8.5 hours every week and by the time I chill out it's time for the next ruddy one ie every 3 days

Nannynoo
Just read your posts
How I wish I could offer even the smallest bit of advice.
You are a wonderful Grandmother
I hope and pray that someone will see reason and and take on board that you little grandson needs peace and calm in his life and you are the one who can provide it.
Thank heavens he has got you to fight his corner.

So sorry that I am unable to offer a solution.

You are clearly and understandably under a great deal of stress. I am not sure that contact at home is appropriate in the circumstances and no doubt you have told social services/ guardian ad litem ( does your gs have one?) who is representing his wellbeing what the relationship is with your daughter. In fact might it be worth requesting / insisting on independent contact supervision, ie with the social worker or other appropriate person? Its too full on given the circumstances.
Try to relax, you are clearly doing the best for your gs and this is all in the hands of the judiciary. You can only do your best and making yourself ill wont help. Hard though, we all understand that. Hope you have someone to talk to.

Just wanted to say that you're doing a great job under very difficult circumstances - and hopefully the people charged with your grandson's well-being will see that and ensure he stays where he's safe and cared for appropriately. I know there are times when that doesn't happen, but take heart that most times the judges get it right.

Nannynoo, you are really going through so much. I hope that the hair strand test proves one way or another what your daughter's condition is, and you can get on with life. From what you say, this test is likely to prove she is still drinking. Will that mean that you win guardianship, or will the process continue ad infinitum?
I hope for your sake that this is resolved soon. Poor little boy, what a shitty situation to be in. xxx

Any responses and support would be gratefully received , have so much going on I am battling with mild depression right now , this court battle and the emotional / mental impact etc is all taking it's toll

It is HORRIBLE being in a situation where your daughter is pretending to be well , has a deep hatred and hostility towards you but you have to sit there twice a week with her and ''chit chat'' as contact with her son has to happen

Plus the fact that her whole ''fight'' for her son is based on lying to get him and pretending she is fine and well when nothing is further from the truth but she can certainly put on a good act but something's gotta give and I hope its not me if her plan works!!!

Anyway am doing my best , am DREADING contact today 4 hours of it , she has invited my brother over but he is a selfish self absorbed person so will have to sit there for 4 hours listening to him talking about himself lol but as least it is a distraction from the hostility between my daughter and I and as long as little man is okay...

He is refusing to go to his Mums too today and I hope we don't have his huge meltdowns later on , will stress how FUN it is going to be for him and will do my best to make it fun for him which I usually do anyway but it may be hectic with my brothers grown kids there as well as he does not like a lot of noise or anything chaotic , he likes calm and he eg likes to fully HEAR his music he is listening to without a lot ( if not any lol ) background noise!!

We will chill the hell out when we get home but I feel like this every two weeks but it is getting worse as we head for the final court deision

I will just focus on little man and just nod at my brother when he goes on and on about his climb up Ben Nevis and London to Brighton bike run , very commendable and well done but I have other more IMPORTANT things to think about like the future happiness of the child you tell to shush when he is screaming due to frustration or excitement!!

( He is not that good with my Grandson , no patience for him , not sure why my daughter invited him round tbh )

Any help and support gratefully received right now!! x

The 3rd worrying scenario is if he goes home and my daughter cannot cope with him and he is damaged in the process but then changes her mind again at any time and little man be bounced back and forth like a ruddy yoyo and the IMPACT on his emotions and mental health would be TERRIBLE

I know one lady whose Grandchildren were bounced back and forth 4 times and on the 4th time she was having trouble bonding again as she was preparing to have her heart ripped out again for the 4th time and could not deal with it!

The courts seem in favour of the birth parents which is worrying as how many ruddy chances do you give them and what happens to the KIDS in the ruddy process?

So if he goes home I do not want my daughter to fail but at this stage I know she WILL!!