minding GC stopped for extra nursery hours

I think it's odd that it has been so sudden and unexpected. It's possible there is a good reason for the less than twenty-four hours' notice though it does seem rude not to have explained that if there was one.

I presume the parents' desire for a nursery place was known about in advance.

The mention of the other granny is puzzling.

Why can't you pick your GS up from nursery? I am sure he'd rather spend the day with you. If I am off work and fancy playing with my GD I ring my D.I.L and ask her to inform the nursery that I will be picking her up. This way suits me better as I can do all my housework or shopping before lunch then spend the rest of the afternoon with her.

I felt more sympathy at the beginning but as others have pointed out you are letting this overtake you and getting angrier and angrier Throwing good food and treats out in your rage seems petulant and not very adult and now you’re saying you feel like cutting them off completely you have really let you disappointment turn to anger and that will be very destructive to you please don’t make any quick actions. Maybe the parents were cautious of your reaction hence telling you at the last minute and not to your face (Im not saying that was right)
Please please for your sake and the little ones sake calm right down and don’t turn it into a battle
You say “I m not minding now for two weeks”oh what I would have given for two weekly visits .... five of my grandkids live overseas two the furthest away possible so Ive only seen them a few times in the last twenty years

oh for a quiet life Please be very very careful what you wish for

spoke to my best friend who has 12 grandchildren and knew my daughter growing up - she was shocked at the story but I think now she needs mental health doctor. It is not the usual behavour of her and she does not get good support from her husband which does not help when working long hours. I have decided to do nothing for the moment but appreciate some comments made here which have been helpful . thank-you and good night.

This seems to be escalating - are you saying your daughter has a mental health problem and needs to see somebody?

Since I am new to Gransnet I don't 'know' many people yet. I have read this thread and find the OP's post uncomfortable. I am also struck by the OP's user name and wonder if you know yourself to sometimes over worry or over react. The old fashioned advice of counting to ten (and more) might be appropriate here. Remember that you cannot take something back once you have said it to your daughter. I wish you peace and calm.

Maw Broon. I like your posts. I hope you are being looked after and find solace in happy memories - I hope that does not sound trite.

Well, this has been a right old drip feed. My first instinct was to sympathise with the OP re not being given notice about the childcare changes - that was just rude and inconsiderate. My sympathy evaporated with the subsequent posts - the drama and waste of food thrown in the bin, the talk of cutting off beloved grandchildren. And now we have hints about unspecified mental health issues. What a strange thread all round.

Once again mental health issues are supposedly at the root of family problems. When did this become such a catch all for relationship problems. I think we should be more careful about attributing this label to anything we don't agree with. I noticed the OP's user name as well perhaps you need to address the stress factors in your life and your coping mechanisms franticnana

So the OP's daughter 'comes home arguing about anything and everything'; she is known as 'bossy boots'; 'other people go out when they appear' as they are 'very difficult to deal with'; the OP now thinks her daughter 'needs mental health doctor'.

I do have some sympathy and think the way the daughter handled the situation was rude and uncaring. However, judging by the OP's extreme reaction, this is looking more and more like the apple not falling far from the tree

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.

Blue Belle - spot on. Just 3 of my eight gcs still under 12 and what you say about never seeing the older ones is true. Still...the oldest is now 17, so I just might get in another nappy change.