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minding GC stopped for extra nursery hours

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franticnana Mon 08-Jan-18 01:48:30

has anyone on this forum been told less than 24 hours notice that their GC is now enrolled in nursery on the only day you see your GS while other granny still does her day each week. if so what did they do about it. We have had no rows or anything and have minded GC for more than 3 years sometimes at very short notice. We are both very upset and feel we should have been spoken to earlier and discussed the matter. Seems we are not important anymore. We have a very close relationship with GC and are totally baffled at this change.

Willow500 Sat 13-Jan-18 06:33:20

Just because your SIL works from home it doesn't mean he has time to do all the housework, cooking etc and possibly actually finds your presence in the house a distraction from his work. Working from home is not a cushy option - a lot of us are stressed just as much as those who travel to their place of work and struggle to do much else. Your original post about the change of plans does seem a bit excessive - they were given the opportunity to put their child in nursery an extra day where they will benefit from social interaction with other children and get them ready for big school. To throw out food and treats just because you were let down at the last minute is just silly. Given your husband's health issues I would think he welcomes the freedom of driving an hour each way to babysit too. Life's too short to be so angry about this and you risk alienating your family completely which might result in not seeing your grandchild at all. Use the time you would have been childminding to go out and enjoy yourselves pursuing your own interests - and don't worry about their cooking, cleaning etc - they're adults and quite able to look after themselves and their family.