When's the next one coming?

I am close to all my 3 so have always been able to joke with them, and “put in an advanced order for 3 grandkids each”. I have 5 and they have all “ shut up shop” now ... I am just so grateful for the adorable ones I have and make the most of every moment with them.

I have several grandchildren, but most are overseas, and the rest are at school, so I hardly ever see them though I know they are well and happy.
Having lots is no better than having one, in my experience.

My DM and DMil were always asking when we were going to have a baby; I hated it, and then I had two miscarriages... My DD is 35, been married nearly 6 years, it's their business whether they have a family or not, I'd never dream of asking.

I had been married about 6 weeks when my mum asked if we were thinking of starting a family! I had no idea at the time and told her 5 years as we were saving. DD1 arrived 20 months later she must have been delighted. I made it a point never to ask about that side of things specially after having miscarriages and problems myself.

How easy it used to be to visit the new GC when everyone was stuck in hospital 10 days they were only to pleased to have all the visitors they could get.

Chill out JackyB, it’s none of our business whether our adult kids choose to have kids or when or how many. It’s our business as family to support each other in bad times and rejoice in good times, to be there for each other whatever turns life makes.
So, relax and enjoy what you have, be happy and surprised if there is a happy ‘announcement’, be supportive and loving if there is a sad confidence made to you. Be helpful, pleasant, friendly and relaxed, make sure your familial relationships are as good as you can. And be happy.

My ds and dil waited 12 yrs before having a child. I desperately wanted a grandchild but NEVER mentioned it to either of them. Absolutely their business and nothing to do with anybody else.

Quote' I am absolutely not going to bring up the subject' Yet it is 'hovering' as you would not have come to GN.
Quote 'The suspense is getting hard to bear' how do others cope ?.We get ourselves a life that is how. Do you have a partner ? ,friends,? interests?.You cannot centre your life around having more grandchildren .I cannot imagine your family would want this for you.

These are unbelievable comments.
It's like asking them about their sex life.
None of your business.
Your children aren't there to churn out grandchildren for you and the pressures on families today are very different from when I was a mum of smallies in the 60s 70s 80s and 90s.
That sort of intrusiveness is very rude UNLESS the couple or person concerned starts the conversation. They're adults entitled to a private life and what (if any) difficulties they encounter regarding having children, be they physical or financial, should not IMO, be the subject of inquisitive parents conversations.

Totally and unacceptably intrusive.
Our chilren’s purpose in life is not to provide us with grandchildren. Cf providing an heir for Royals and the aristocracy.
I worry at the obsession of some Grans with their children’s procreative habits.
Not our business!

When first GC was born I didn't visit for two days as she had CS. We helped with discharge from hospital and then left them to it because they thought that was what they wanted. DIL rang me the next day and asked me to buy things and take them to the house, I am not sure she really needed extra cot sheets I think she just needed someone to be there.
When second GC was born we went to stay with the family as elder one had to be taken to nursery, thankfully an elective CS so we could make arrangements. We didn't see baby for 24 hours after birth but that was fine as we were needed elsewhere.
I never made a fuss about wanting GC it mostly came from friends who used to tell DS "your mum is longing to be a granny" er no I wasn't. DD does not have children and I never ever asked when she was going to make me a granny. I only ever wanted DC to be happy and my feelings did not come into the equation.

Our DS (our only child ) and DDiL were in their late 30s when DGD arrived. DH & I were fortunate enough to be able to fly 5000 miles to them, to give support. (DH & I had never, ever, asked about babies. Not always easy!) We kept quiet & were equally delighted when DGS arrived, a couple of years later. So glad I always bit my tongue & didnt ask!

I never thought I would become a Granny as my DD was in a same sex relationship. I was delighted when she told me that provided they could find a suitable donor they wanted a baby. Along came DGS1 & I was delighted as DD has always loved children (trained Nursery Nurse/Nanny). We were content with 1 DGS , more than we ever expected.

DD always wanted another baby but had moments of do I/don't I. I never interfered, never asked, I'm just grateful that I have 2 gorgeous DGSs & my DM is a Great Granny. It's no-one else's business what a couple decide on when or whether your DD or DS & their OH have children. I would never have asked neither did my DM.

My daughter has always said since about 16 that she would have a child when she was 30....she was 30+ 1 month when my grandson showed up. I never asked about another and after about three years she said she'd have another child at 35.... and my granddaughter popped out at 35. ! She has always planned her life like this! The first was born in the Easter school holidays...and the second in the Christmas school holidays..... Both parents work in schools!? When I asked recently if a Summer school holiday baby was imminent my daughter scowled. So that's my lot ... a gorgeous grandson and a beautiful granddaughter! How thankful for two happy healthy wonderful new kids on the block!