i have two grandchildren boy age 6 and girl age 4.every week they go to son in laws family thursday after school and sunday after church for lunch.my son in law died last sept heart problems age 37, bit upset for all. but even before he died there was set days for the grandchildren .thursday and sundays to in laws or as my daughter puts it her new mum,(very hurtful)..when do i see my grandchildren ,well i dont except half hour after church on sundays. i ask to go to tea there is always an excuse.or would they like to come to my home for an hour week days or weekend ,another excuse.. the only real time i get to see them is during summer holidays or other holidays on a tuesday if i'm lucky and they not doing something else. i think its so unfair that i never get to see them even for an hour after school. always an excuse.i havent been down my daughters home for 2 months now. always an excuse.she even asked why i want to see my granchildren told her straight that i never get to see them enough.son in laws family are very controlling and my daughter been brainwashed by them.i feel really left out.i never get invited to anywhere or a cup of tea round the in laws.its always them. i'm a single parent and nanny.. but i never get to see my grandchildren. i wave to my grandson through the school railings at lunch time.and thats it till i see them at church on sunday for half hour afterwards..please help ,i get so upset and not seeing my grandchildren. i know there has been a big upset with andrew dying i miss him a lot, but at least i was invited for tea/dinner /stories when he was here..feel so left out of things and get very emotional.. mothers day i made a noise. i asked mum in law why alice was spending mothers day round her house every year.she said she never really thought about it as alice is round her home every sunday. and i said well maybe she can come for tea then. after much thought from mil. alice and children came for an hour for tea on mothers day.i dont know what else to do. i have tried talking to my daughter and she says lets keep things as they have been. which kind of excludes me... am very unhappy, should i talk to a counsellor at church..?