Raising my grandson

Downtoearth I’m sorry to hear about your DD and well done to you too. It’s hard being a man amongst the mums and it’s horrid when family don’t care enough it’s so hurtful ?

I can't offer any advice but just wanted to say how much I admire all of you who are caring for your grandchildren in this way. They are so lucky to have you - so many children have no one. for you all

That should read Nan not man!

Oh Moira the poor little chap that Is awful ? Saddens me that family's don't pull together and I know how very lucky we are to be close, we've been through a lot together , death , cancer, baby loss, mental illness the list goes on but we step in and step back as and when we are needed. To me it would be alien to be any other way and I adore my little niece as much as I do my granddaughter, I'm sorry you don't have this support but you should be proud of what you are doing especially under the circumstances Xx

Thankyou*Moira*, it has been a long road travelled, for others on this thread it is still a very fresh wound, MissA,I know this to be so in your case.Kath suicide,a word so ugly leaves its own scars and what if's,then we have to deal with practicalities and social services who at best are brilliant at their worst,misguided,misinformed and at times lacking in empathy and experience,I have experienced all of them.Only another GP who has,is,going through this can understand how lonely and isolating it is to be out of sync with family,friends and financially penalised you are,would I do it again? In a heartbeat,I made a promise when E was born in her christening bible we gave her "I would give my life for you" ,not realising how prophetic that would be.E is 19 now,we havent reached our destination but we travel much more comfortably,dramas and obstacles still happen but as an adult it is guidance now that is needed.I offer my support to any of you that are reading this,please PM if you want to chat,or let off steam. for you all x