No magic answer for you I’m afraid Sue0308. We were in a very similar situation ten years ago, about to retire and travel when my DD’s chaotic lifestyle escalated and we took in and raised singlehandedly our two young DGDs. They brought much fun and joy into our lives, one DGD is about to buy her own home with a stable partner and the other is studying hard for uni next year. It wasn’t always easy though, we did manage to travel together during school hols so were able to share a decent lifestyle. DD is alcoholic, manipulative and tells untruths, we spent many years supporting her financially (essentially running 2 households) and emotionally and when it was finally thrown back in our faces we withdrew completely and left her to get on with her life as she wanted. She had a house and a third child with a partner and, at that point, after years of worry and knowing every day that another crisis was just around the corner, we felt a huge sense of relief. We have not spoken for many years, it sounds hard hearted I know, but we supported her in every way possible and we have nothing in common any more. Our DGDs see both parents (long divorced) frequently and we have always encouraged that, so enjoy your DGCs and the joy and laughter they bring because a loving family life is the most important thing we can pass onto them.
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