Where do I start?

Sue0308 I have sent you a PM

"Um....I give up trying to explain!! "

Good! Cause you weren't really explaining anything in the first place. All you were doing was ranting aimlessly, picking unnecessary fights, dishing out advice that you can't even follow, and disagreeing with my posts whilst forgetting that you'd agreed with others on similar sentiments. So no, there's nothing you were explaining at all. No need to make it look like one party is "misunderstanding," whilst you're the one flip flopping all over the place, and aimlessly attacking other posters when this post isn't even about you.

You tell people to move on whilst your struggling to have the last word. You do realize that none of this would have even occurred if you'd been mature enough to ignore my post? Especially after our last encounter which you conveniently claim to have forgotten about just cause you don't want to come across as the antagonizer that you are?

There are so many posts on Gransnet, there's no need to gravitate towards my every post. It's not hard to ignore me and read the next posters comment. It really isn't. I know this for I easily ignore all your comments anytime I come across your name and move right on. That's what mature people do. Immaturity on the other hand would involve the manner on which you constantly try to pick and twist anything that I post. Get over yourself and move on already!!! Why are you so bent on constantly arguing with someone you don't even know?

But its great that you chose to apologize to the OP, for my comments that you aimlessly chose to attack weren't even any of your business to begin with as neither was geared towards you. But you tried to place all forms of fault onto it, and twist its original content in an attempt to try and make it fit right into the negative narrative you had for it in mind. ( I know for a fact that you remember trying to do this before - but keep convincing yourself how you forgot all of it). I hope you find peace and happiness in your life! A complete stranger shouldn't really make you feel or act this way..

Sue, what a worrying situation for you, but I agree with the previous posters who say this is actually your son's problem not yours. I have no doubt that your precious DGD brings much joy to your lives, but you should not be the prime carers.

By taking on the parental role, you have enabled your son to shirk his responsibilities. I am willing to bet that if he had taken care of his child, as he should have done, he would not have made the same 'mistake' twice.

You have already done more than your share here and have effectively postponed your plans for retirement in order to take on another mother's child. I find it odd that the mother is not involved. However, it seems that the second GF does want to be a mother, so why can't she look after her baby when he or she is born.

I would give practical help and support but you would be mad, in my opinion, to take on the task of raising another child well into your 60s. And what about your poor husband? At a time when he thought your parenting days were over and you enjoy time together, travel etc, he is put back into the role of father - he has done it once, and the love for your DGC has meant that he probably does not regret it, but I would be surprised if he wants to do it again.

Your son and his GF are adults, stop being so involved and let them make adult decisions and take on their own responsibilities. Otherwise, you are going to end up with a whole nursery full of children and no retirement at all.