Christmas is fast coming at us and the discussion in my family has turned to who has me for the big Day!!
The nearest to me are my two DDs and their families. Last year I had Christmas in my new home and all the family came and we had a great time, ending up laughing at some of the games we played, memories of when DH was alive.
This year I had not mentioned anything and one of my DDs said her mother-in-law and her husband wanted to spend Christmas Day with them for the first time. Then Son in law felt obliged to ask his father, and he accepted, despite some misgivings about how things would go with ex-wife and her husband.
DD said I am more than welcome to go as well, BUT I really can't stand to be in the same room as father-in-law, with very good reason I might add, even my DD dislikes him but tolerates him for the sake of my DGSs. DD knows my feelings and admitted she would be concerned about there being bad feelings, so sent a text (unbeknown to me) to my two other children, asking them to help out.
AIBU to feel somewhat resentful at this, like the problem parent who needs to be accommodated?
My DS has asked me to stay with him and his family, which means staying there for five days, but resented my DD texting him to ask and I am acutely aware that staying with them for that amount of time could be a strain for them particularly as I am on the bed settee, although I absolutely adore my GD's and we are planning to hit the shops on Boxing Day!!
My other DD is in the medical profession and is working Christmas Eve, so going to her would be difficult because of the shift patterns.
So...... a long explanation, but a short question:
AIBU to feel like a square cog, or be a little wary of spending so much time with my DS, or should I stop worrying about the whole thing? Or am I just feeling the loss of my DH, even after 5 years, at this particular time of the year.
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