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Asd/aspergers

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maryrose54 Thu 10-Jan-19 15:16:16

My grandson,who is in reception class, is suspected of having pathological demand avoidance which is an area of the autistic spectrum. It all came to a head yesterday when he hit a dinner lady because he didn't want to come in from playtime. He often displays avoidance tactics when he doesnt want to do something but is not normally agressive.DD is having a meeting with the teacher today to discuss what can be done to help him. I wondered if anyone else has come across this. He is very bright, reads very well and has a very good vocabulary. He doesn't display the signs of asd that I have seen in children I have come across in my career as TA in an infant school.

maryrose54 Sat 09-Mar-19 15:57:35

Momof3 DD found out about the letter because the class teacher told her. Education al psychologist visited on Friday, met with DD first and explained whole process,then DD had meeting with the head teacher. When I saw DD later that day she seemed so much more positive as now she knows the steps that will be taken and how the whole process will work. DGS will continue to do half days with some work to do at home with DD. Of course we will continue to suport in anyway we can. DD has made doctors appointment for herself as she feels she needs support with the stressful situation, but things feel more positive. At parent evening this week she was assured that he is doing very well academically, ahead of many of his peers it seems. Thankyou all for your kind words.

Jane10 Sat 09-Mar-19 21:25:55

Luckygirl I've said before that a diagnosis of ASD is not a label but a signpost to appropriate support and understanding. The diagnosis implies a pretty specific set of approaches that can really help a child: Structure, predictability, calm and enlightened carers ie families and teachers who understand how ASD impacts on style of thinking and resultant learning strategies.
Not easy to provide in a noisy, busy mainstream school but with support and the will it's possible. However, there are staffing and therefore funding implications. Definitely problematical in today's economic climate!