Son traumatised

I stray into capitals when I'm enjoying myself.

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I do not expect my son to find a Mrs Right!!! In fact, I very much doubt it.

Great! His options are still open to your generation right? But I'm sure Mrs. Right has to be in at least one generation Gonegirl. And if he can't find Mrs. Right in any generation, then maybe he's just Mr. Wrong.

Has it occurred to you that he might be looking for a MR Right?

Didn't think of that, did yer.

I would just say that his mother loves him.

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This thread has just reduced to pettiness now. It's not even about the OP anymore, I think it's time people called it a day.

OP, I'm happy the situation is resolved and hope you get to meet your GC soon. And I hope you have a lovely birthday!

Has it occurred to you that he might be looking for a MR Right?

Pffttttt! Says the gran from the "non-snowflake generation," who specifically said this (read bolded words below) about her "snowflake generation," son who can't even seem to find "Mrs. Right in any generation including hers. So what does that say about YOU and your generation?

son hasn't found the right girl yet. Going by you lot I'm beginning to see why.

So you don't even know if your very own son is looking for Mrs. Right, Mr. Right or if he is just a Mr. Wrong?

I’ll get the popcorn .... ?

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LLL I can't be expected to remember what I said yesterday! I'm old.

Does gonegirl need to know herself, or post on here what her sons preferences are?

He's not gay really. I live in hope some poor girl might stand still long enough to get snaffled up by him.

Congratulations on becoming a grandma, you will have lots of cuddles with him in the future. As others have said, they are probably exhausted both emotionally and physically. Don’t get too wound up about possible mental health problems, just let them know you are there for them if and when they need you.

Love it Gonegirl
I can't remember anything either.
Terrible isn't it?
I have no idea how I managed to bring two kids up on my own, have a full time demanding job which paid the mortgage thank the L* and have no MIL or Mummypops in sight to give me a hand!
Bring it on - the kids seem to have turned out okay...
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Ahaaa - cracked it!

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Just to round things up, they are now home, and we have seen them on a whatsapp call. It was worse than I realised, after the birth the crash team was called for both of them, but fortunately all seems well now.

Sleep well everyone!

Oh Heavens B9ex, that does sound scary. No wonder your son was traumatised, what a frightening start to their new baby's life. I'm so glad all is well now and you've been in touch via WhatsApp call. That must have been so reassuring for you.

I’m so glad to hear they’re home.
That’s truly horrific I really hope your DIL heals both physically and mentally. The midwives should be aware and ensure she has support.
Hope you have a fantastic birthday.

B9 Congratulations on the arrival of your new grandchild

I'm sorry to hear that the arrival was so traumatic for everyone and I hope things settle over the next few weeks. It will take time for all of them to come to terms with what happened.

I had a similar situation with DD1 - although my records show a "normal" delivery it was anything but as they lost her heartbeat. She was born not breathing and was whisked away by the paediatric crash team to the neonatal unit and I didn't see her again that day while I lost over 6 pints of blood and was taken for emergency surgery and specialist stitching under general anaesthetic and then spent around 5 hours in an HDU.

The day after birth was very surreal - I began to doubt that I had even had a baby and I was very unwell from blood loss and the approx 60 internal stitches (and I didn't even have a c-section). The following days passed in a blurr as the baby and I had tests and I had additional blood transfusions for until day 4.

Although dh is a hcp he was very shocked as he was left in an empty delivery room that was covered in blood. I developed PTSD and what we really needed on those early days post birth was a chance to process what had occurred. In some ways we were lucky as the hospital had a strict no visitor policy - only dads and sometimes baby's siblings were allowed on the post natal ward. Some mums left the ward to see visitors - for example they went to the hospital cafe - but I wasn't allowed to leave the ward.

I think the best advice is to let the new parents go at their pace and don't overwhelm them as the new mum will need a lot of rest after a traumatic birth. Ask if they need practical help such as shopping or taking a meal over.

We've been told we can visit on Monday, hooray! Can't wait.

That's if I have recovered from serious partying tomorrow!