I would be so grateful for some words of wisdom please!
My DIL is due any day now for the first grandchild in my and her family. I am so worried that I will not be able to see my new grandchild very much due to the maternal grandmother being quite forceful and taking control. She has already lined herself up for looking after the baby when my son and his fiancée go on honeymoon later in the year along with looking after the baby at the wedding and when the hen night is on. I did offer to share but was told it was ok it was all sorted.
She has apparently also arranged to go and stay with my future DIL when my son goes back to work after three weeks. Both her and I only live 10 minutes away so why does she need to stay??
We have agreed that both me and maternal grandmother will look after baby one day a week when my future DIL goes back to work which I am thrilled about and shows that there isn't a problem with them leaving baby with me, but that is in a years time!
Am I being unreasonable to feel jealous already when the baby isn't even here yet? Has any other paternal grandparent been in this situation and how have they dealt with it?
Cheeky - neighbours
Left out - paternal grandmother
Concerned - funeral wishes