Don’t know really where to start but here goes ...
I lost my amazing Mum 3 Years ago she really was an amazing person, one of a kind & really as she was as perfect as you can get.
I have three beautiful amazing kids who she adored & they adored her. We all terribly miss her. My eldest 2 are having counselling to help with their heart healing.
On to my Husband’s parents. Well they washed their hands with us, when we had just one child who was only 5 Months old & I was pregnant with my second.
My Husband left the army on medical grounds as he’s mental health was badly effected. His parents said he was a failure & a let down to them. Being as their from a military background, to leave the army in their family for any reason was a big no no.
I helped my Husband heal & he is an amazing hard working Dad.
When we lost my Mum my eldest two kept asking why all their friends had 2 Nanny’s & 2 Grandad’s. We explained that we had lost contact with their other Grandparents & would try our best to contact them. I sent them a really nice E-mail, much to my disgust after the way they previously treated my Husband, baby & unborn baby by just washing their hands with us. But I suppose wanting to give them a second chance & believe people can change. I put my own feelings a side & decided for my kids, I would try to give them back what they was missing, regardless of the pain it would cause me. After sending my E-mail asking how they were. Explaining we now have 3 amazing kids, 2 of which they had never met & asking if they would be happy to put the past in the past & get to know them, as the kids were desperate to meet them. They refused this, continuing with their evil ways. A while passed still with my kids asking about them. I decided yet again to try. This time it was successful. I hated every moment of meeting up with them every Weekend. Them making my children happy & laugh. When they’d be so evil in the past & my amazing Mum couldn’t do this. But seeing my children happy was the most important thing. So a Year passed with them being ok. My kids gained a bond. Things started to go wrong. They told us they was moving away in 3 Years. They told my eldest sensitive boy who’s only 7. If one of them was the die the other would kill theirselves. This was just a few of the terrible things they done. They don’t speak to their own Daughter who herself has 5 children, all who have nothing to do with them. Well the Sister decided to try rebuild with them too. This caused a problem some how for us as again the Mum turned really evil. She requested a break from us, which we gave her 2 Weeks infact. After the 2 Weeks of no contact. My children were asking questions, I just didn’t have the answers too. I decided to text her to see how she was & to see where we was going from here. No response. I had to break the news to my kids, we wouldn’t be seeing them again. I spend so much time & effort on my kids making them see how amazing they are. To have two people come into their life’s & destroy all the hard work I do. My Daughter who’s only 6 is heartbroken. My eldest boy who’s 7 hasn’t really said much & my 4 Year old Son doesn’t really understand. My Daughter asks me every-day since if we’re so amazing Mummy, why doesn’t our Nanny & Grandad love us enough to want to see us any-more. It breaks my heart. As if loosing their amazing Nan wasn’t enough, but now I have let two monsters into their life’s to cause nothing but pain.
So thanks for reading this long story, just really needed the rant & to make you understand how important this post is.
My Daughter is pleading with me to adopt her a Nan. All she wants is the love & cuddles. Not after any-one’s money, no gifts ever needed. Just some-ones time & love.
We’re from Kent, England. Would love to find some-one who can give my family the missing Nan & Grandad. There must be some-one out there missing the grandkids too.
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