I do not like my DIL No matter how hard I try
I have two boys, both of whom have partners they live with. One DIL is lovely, kind and thoughtful, the other is cold, ignorant and makes it plain that hubby and I are only tolerated because she is marrying our son.
We have a large house and let our son live in one half with our granddaughter (he pays rent). I gave up a six figure salary to look after my grandchild when my sons previous relationship broke up. I get her up, feed her, take her to school and collect her, organise clubs, school outings etc And basically care for her until my son gets home.
Last year, my son reconnected with an old flame and a few months she and her two children moved in. Since then everything has been really difficult.
My granddaughter now sleeps on our side of the house while DIL and her two children sleep on my sons side as each side has three bedrooms.
previously, we lived separately but realised that some flexibility was needed for the arrangement to work. DIL has made flexibility impossible.
I am now supposed to get permission if I need to go over to their side for any reason such as getting granddaughters coat of the peg she can’t reach or looking for school bag if they haven’t got it ready.
Because granddaughter sleeps on our side DIL wanders over without any regard for our privacy. She is also complaining about paying rent as she considers that they should live for free or more cheaply as we are family and they want to save for their own place.
Honestly, I am so tired of walking on eggshells and feel totally used. For example today is my sons birthday and he, his fiance and her two children have gone off (kids will be dropped at school) while I am expected to do everything as normal with my granddaughter.
I don’t know how much more I can take. I have tried talking calmly to my son but he says DIL is a kind person but doesn’t see the world like we do as she is very spoiled and as her parents are well off. The only reason I keep helping is for my granddaughter who I feel is being excluded
I honestly don’t know what to do as if we ask them to move out, I think we wouldn’t get to see out grandchild out of spite.
Good Morning Thursday 25th April 2024
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