I am astounded to read such judgemental attitudes from so many Grans who often go on to boast about their "superior" acts of parenting.
It was a huge relief to read Shelmiss, RomyP and janeainsworth. What right have we to jump conclusions about other people's lives from just seeing one small part on one particular day?
It is hardly surprising that we older people are sometimes regarded as stuck in the mud and out of touch. A lot of children, my sight-impaired grandson for example, use their iPad to read books. If children grow up forbidden to use the computer or iPad or phone (which is a kind of small iPad) they will be badly lacking in the skills and knowledge of the technology that is fundamental to how we live.
Using technology does not prevent playing interactive games like those so promoted board games. My two eldest Grandsons are nearly the same age. One is an only child. They adore each other and play such games constantly together. Last time I spoke to my eldest daughter she said her son was playing such a game with his cousin on the iPad. I was delighted. They were both at their own homes about 177 miles apart.
The idea that board games are superior because they encourage interaction is another Luddite view. Many games on computers need interaction. You can play chess on the computer. At the family get-together over New Year, the children were playing a game together on the computer that involved enormous interaction, fun, emotion, craziness and real friendship.
I too came across those overwhelming pushy mothers who kept up a non-stop mind improvement course for their children. I taught in the early part of my career. These children learn to tune out the constant buzz of an adult's voice which is trying to take over their mind and not let them think for themselves. I have also read with amusement many Tweets from people who have suffered train journeys in a carriage with a pushy parent who is cheerfully "improving" his/her child's experience with a continuous chatter about the scenery and important facts pertaining thereupon. I have experienced this with my eldest daughter and teenage son recently on a train journey. Her reaction was, "That poor kid!" and teenage grandson said, "Parents like that should be shot."
To all who have said how can you judge those people who read in the Library while their grandchild does the same, or who gave the small child a computer game on the phone at a restaurant dinner table, I salute you and thank you on behalf of all exhausted parents trying to do their best. In particular I was so pleased to hear how the phone game helped the Autistic child. That is such a great leap of progress for Autistic children! Thank you for telling us.
As for blaming forward facing push chairs! What a mad thing to say! The whole point of the pushchair facing the direction of travel is that the child can see the view! What better way to learn about their environment? I certainly managed to talk to all mine while they were facing forward.
Namsnanny- I'm so sorry that you are still in pain. These situations are such a heart-wrenching torment. I fully understand how you must feel seeing what might be a grandparent with a grandchild and the two of them not communicating. I hope and pray that your situation changes for the better. Sending lots of love, Elle x ?