Is it just a nana thing?

I don’t know, what does your partner consider to be over the top?

I'm sure you're normal! Granddaughters are such a joy. If you enjoyed a good bond with your own grandma you will want to replicate that with your own granddaughter. Make the most of it I say.

Don't know. Keep going with your heart and stop questioning yourself. Enjoy the gift without reserve.

I’m a bit confused by the daughter and grandchild bit
I wonder what your partner considers over the top?
Unless he actually objects, and can explain it I’d just enjoy your grandchild.

Enjoy her and do what comes naturally to you. You are her loving nana. What matters is meeting her needs and having fun.

If your life revolves totally and only round her I think its abnormal and arguably unhealthy... but I don't honestly know what you or he means. To get a proper answer I think we'd need to know more.

Depends what you are doing that he thinks is over the top doesn’t it ?

I don’t think it’s necessarily a nana thing, grandads can be over the top too. My dh dotes on our three, and would do anything for them.
Where having our nearly three year old granddaughter on Monday, he’s already been shopping for her favourite treats, planned the day and got the toys ready. He’ll be the first to the door when she arrives and won’t leave her side while she’s here. So if that’s what your like then no it’s definitely not a nana thing .

Erica
Makes for a nice easy day for you then, sounds ideal.

Yes Sara. I don’t get a look in, just dip in and out when I feel like it. And make lunch of course, he’s a hopeless cook .

Well until you tell us what over the top means we can never answer if you adore and idolise your grandchild to the detriment of others maybe you are . Do you spoil her, talk only about her to your partner ( I presume he’s not her granddad as you say he’s know her since she was 4) do you turn him down to do something with her
No one can judge as you have told us nothing
If she’s heading up to teenage years you might get a shock when she pulls away ( they always do) if you ve put all your eggs in one basket
I m guessing this is the only granddaughter maybe only grandchild
You can never love a child too much you can however indulge and adore a child too much and set them on a pedestal which isn’t a good start for the big wide world

So in answer maybe you do maybe you don’t

Adoring your grandchildren is not a gender thing it depends on you as a person. Society does try and typecast genders into specific roles and that can cause problems when people don't fit them.

Do you think he’s trying to hint that you’ve become a bit, just a bit, boring with only one topic of thought and conversation?

It’s a well known nana phenomenon ?

Maybe he’s a bit jealous. My OH was a bit tetchy recently. Said I was concentrating on my DD and GC too much. It wasn’t a fair comment as I only spend maybe one/two days every other week with them (we’re in a childcare bubble). I had to gently but firmly say that tbh they were good company and I enjoyed my time with them and that wasn’t going to change. They’re not his GC btw. I’m fairly convinced that if they were his GC he’d be all over them.

I don`t think you can ever show enough love for your G/children.
I adore my 4 and yes i treat them,but not by going over the top.
And my dh loves it when they come for a visit and if we visit them,he`s not their biolgical g/ parent but you would never know.
Maybe your dh is a little jealous.

Polarbear2, a childcare bubble - is for childcare, not socialising.

Jackie12, I do think that there may be an element of jealousy involved. All that attention directed at the children - and away from him!

You may only see your GC for two days a week but maybe you spend the rest of the time talking about them/what they are doing/have done/will do, planning for the next time you see them? Maybe you don't spend time focusing on your partner?

Quite a few nans do that, and it's nowhere near as fascinating for the listener.

Where does it say she only sees her two times a week amber?

MissA My mother is a very obsessive gran, and incredibly boring to be with, even for most of her children. My father adores his GC too, but has his own interests - I often wonder if his need to be out and about at least two days a week were partly to have more interaction with other people with more interesting conversation.

Bluebelle Ooops - you're quite right - got the op mixed up with something else I was reading.

Sorry Jackie12, just ignore me - I'm obviously having a mixed up day ?

I have a neighbour like that.
She knocks as soon as her grandchildren go home (or did) and I get a full run down of what they ate, what they said.... yawn.

Not sure how "over the top " you are Jackie12 some grandparents harp on constantly about the achievements of their grandchildren and have reams of photos on their phones to bore you with - yawn.
My husband loves all the grandchildren but does not involve himself in their day to day lives and activities. I am the one who keeps in contact with emails, Whatsapp buying presents etc. Guess who is the favourite person when they visit though.

How I curse the Smartphone. People can now WhatsApp me daily pictures and videos of their grandchildren ?