New nanny - feeling a little left out

Madgran77

*Most MiLs have no desire to try to take over the special mother-daughter relationship, but for some reason we only hear about the bad situations (it can sometimes be the maternal GM who’s a pain in the backside!*

That is true nansnet. I suppose we hear about the bad situations because the good situations don't cause problems for people

Yes, that's very true. It's rare that anyone posts about how wonderful their MiL is, not because there aren't any wonderful MiLs, but just because they have no need to. We only hear about the bad ones. Sadly, the bad things we do hear about a few MiLs, can sometimes give people the preconceived idea that we're all the same, which is far from the truth.

Thank you so much for your replies everyone.

I have read all of them and taken on board what everyone has said. I now realise I was over the top with the texting everyday and that I was beginning to feel a little left out at far too early a stage in my little grandson's life.

I think the problem was I was so excited about his arrival (I only have 1 son) that I think that took over my usual rational thinking!! I wish I had been more prepared and discovered Gransnet before he was born and I think I would have been a little more ready for the overwhelming love I have for him and the fact that I wouldn't really be a "hands on" nanny for the first few weeks of his life.

I know I am welcome to call in at anytime at my S and DIL's and they know I am always there to help. I now realise how important DIL's mum is to her and that she will be far more involved at this stage.

I still feel a little upset not to be needed but at least I know they have everything under total control!! Hopefully in the upcoming months I will be called on to help and I can't wait for that time to come. In the meantime I am enjoying seeing my grandson and spending time with my S and DIL at this new stage in their lives.

Thank you everyone again - I am so glad I joined this group. I can see I will be needing more advice as the time goes on!!

Good on you Nannyto! I recognize how upset you have been and a new grandchild is so exciting!! Good luck and enjoy your new role.

Nannyto, it's good to see your post. The arrival of a new baby is an emotional time for everyone, parents and grandparents, and your feelings are entirely normal. You have so much to look forward to. Congratulations on becoming on a GM!

Nannyto there's still a lot you can do to help.
My daughter and her partner really appreciate it when I do some weeding or deadheading in the garden for instance. Jobs they might not think to ask you to do but which need doing and make the garden a nice place for everyone to sit, especially with the warmer weather coming.
Obviously ask first, but have a think and I'm sure you can make yourself a most welcome and valued team member!