Multigenerational household

Mattsmum2 I hope that my post didn't come over as negative. It wasn't meant to be. I am so glad that my mum lived with us and I wish we had been able to persuade her to move in earlier, when her health started to decline. I wish that she was still here.

And despite the fact that we got stuck with her ex for a while, I look back with great fondness on the years that our daughter lived with us. Particularly the time after her children were born, as it was lovely to have little kids in the house again.

I am sure that you and your family will be all very happy together.

Bluecat

Mattsmum2 I hope that my post didn't come over as negative. It wasn't meant to be. I am so glad that my mum lived with us and I wish we had been able to persuade her to move in earlier, when her health started to decline. I wish that she was still here.

And despite the fact that we got stuck with her ex for a while, I look back with great fondness on the years that our daughter lived with us. Particularly the time after her children were born, as it was lovely to have little kids in the house again.

I am sure that you and your family will be all very happy together.

No it was fine, I’m interested in people’s experiences good or bad, thanks for posting again, appreciate it ?

Mattsmum2 my advice is don't do it. If you are an independent woman you are giving that up. Like others have said you need everything tied up legally. Clearly setting out how much money everyone is putting into the home. How the bills are to be shared. Do they expect you to be on call 24/7 for childcare. What if your daughter and partner split up. What happens to the home. What if you and your daughter and partner don't get on. What if you all fall out. What happens to the home. What happens if you become seriously ill. Do you have other children if so what do they think. Lots of questions you need answering. It sounds an easy thing to do but there are a lot of pit falls.
.
The only experience I have is my mom lived with me for the last 18 months of here life. The last 4 months where hell on earth as dementia took hold and she no longer knew who I was and became violent.

Don't think for a second you and your daughter could ever become estranged. It happened to me last year with my son. I never thought he would do what he has. I was widowed 17 years ago.

I would never give up my independence. If I can no longer look after myself I do not want my daughter to look after me and will go into a home.

It sounds a simple solution but it's not. You need to protect yourself.