Paying?

^I also want to bring up the idea that "the parents have a higher income than the grandparents".
The parents may also have a higher expense level due to their phase in life, so passing the buck from the gp to the parents is immature^

And the parents may still be more able to pay than the GP. And I think it's mannerly to pay for something that you invite your parents to unless you state when inviting that there's a charge they will have to pay.

I feel incredibly mean to consider not giving them all the same I find it a really impossible dilemma

Bluebelle I have no difficulty. My daughter is a single parent. The other two have partners and good income. I sometimes send them all a gift of money and am generous with presents.
However my daughter gets much more. I have told her she is never to worry about anything while I have savings. Its stressful enough being a sibgle patent without money worries. She doesn't take advantage. I don't feel guilty at all.

sibgle patent?? single parent.

It seems a bit unusual to charge so much at a Scandi daycare - is it a fundraiser for the class, PTA or the school? (Remembers the "Christmas market" fundraiser after the Saint Lucia day concert at a small village school in rural Sweden where each class had a stall selling parents the Christmas craft projects)

I think you should clarify with your son - as he sent you a screenshot of the letter they got he might not intend for you to pay at all.

No need to call anyone on here immature Hithere that's just being rude for it's own sake.

Several of us, including the OP have merely mentioned that their children are quite comfortably off compared to our own incomes.

Comparisons are deadly

Comparing your income with another one is like comparing apples and oranges - numbers do not fully define your financial health indicator.

You can earn a lot but have a lot of expenses or a big spender
You can earn little but be financially wise

Hithere and you could earn a lot and have a lot left over after essential expenses. And a big spender could include paying for invited guests.

nadeteturbe Good for you. That sounds really nice and sensible.

First of all thank you all very much for your time and for all the answers. Thank you!
Well, the dilemma is somehow solved now. We will watch the play, and then leave.
I said to my husband “Or you attend the whole thing alone or we can go together, without “The Banket” (way to expensive for what it is, by the way, and, buy the way in the screen shot everybody was also told to help with the cleaning- up after it all, or as it said “we expect you to…”!. ). Summa summarum this invitation mess seems a little like “I invite you to go to Tivoli next friday, but you must pay for the “trip pass” out of your own pocket!” My husband just told our son how it’s going to be, and it was all right, but it was also evident, that he had not intended to let the invitation include a meal. Thank you also for the compliments on my english, you are VERY kind :-) Still it’s difficult to explaine oneself properly in a non- native language. Why didn’t I rise my question in a danish forum then? Well I have been following Gransnet for quite some time, and I like the english points of view, always very polite and educated, we danes could learn a lot from you. This first post of mine at Gransnet has been very helpful, and I am touched that some nice english women did spend time to answer and share opinions. 1000 tak!

Eloethan

nadeteturbe Good for you. That sounds really nice and sensible.

Eloethan thanks.

Karen1963 glad it's all sorted for you. Obviously a different way of doing things in Denmark.