Hi.
My wife and I care for our two-year-old grandson every Monday without any major issues. On a few other days, he goes to his other grandparent's where he gets no stimulation, and she gives him sweets that leave him hyper.
To be fair, it's difficult for them because they have a severely disabled adult son, living with them full time. When our grandson was born, she made grand offers that she wanted to look after him all the time, which has since not transpired.
Knowing her situation with her own son, I don't know why she offered to help.
A week ago she announced that her and her husband were going on a three-week holiday, at short notice, I presume that their son goes in care while they are away.
That's left my daughter, who is working full time, in a difficult situation. We stepped in to help with more care and on Saturday night we experienced him throwing an extreme tantrum at bedtime.
He seems to have got into stupid routines. He doesn't seem to have any routine and structure, because he is getting bounced around from pillar to post and all the rules might be conflicting with each carer.
As I write, he has thrown another extreme tantrum and my wife is at breaking point. I help, but I'm afraid having me help just introduces another set of rules, for him to try and deal with.
What can we do, and where do we start?
Kind regards.