How often do you see GC 1 hour away?

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How often do you see your own grandchildren? Is this what you are concerned about; not seeing them as often as you would like?
Or are you speaking as a parent?
As BlueBelle says, a bit of context would be helpful.

Either way, there have been many threads along these lines. The general consensus is that it is not a competition and the frequency of visits can vary according to lifestyle, health, personalities and expectations of all concerned.

The answer, as with most things in life, is to talk about it, and, if this suits you, perhaps to agree on a system of regular visits, but be flexible, and remember that they grow up quickly and very soon sleepovers or outings with the grandparents may be included.

Some parents are very wary of handing over their children. Some grandparents can be very irresponsible. It has all been covered on Gransnet.

Whilst the grandchildren are tiny and visits include all 3 generations, it may be prudent for the grandparents to stay in the background and let the little ones get to know the and let the come forward when they are ready.

This is probably more than the OP is asking, so I'll shut up now.

Whether you are the parent or the grandparent, aim to be open about everything and make firm decisions.

There is no single answer.

Not sure if this helps, but when ours were young they lived 10 minutes away, we’d see them roughly once a month.

There is no right or wrong amount and it doesn’t help to compare your situation with anybody else’s. If you are unhappy about your contact with your GC that is up to you and their parents.
Quoting the experience of others is unlikely to make you happier.

It depends on everyone's schedules and what they want. An hour isn't far for me but that doesn't mean that the parents aren't busy (or grandparents) and can't fit a visit every week.

I think you just discuss it. We are a very close family and DD1 is 30 minutes away, DD2 in same town as us. We see them once or twice a week for childcare and nearly every weekend on one of the days socially. Always have. DGC are 7, 4 and 3 now. That may not suit everyone though.

My answer would be spasmodic. Sometimes a feast or a famine totally depending on what their committments are. I'm very aware of this as my own lovely Mum used to give me a hard time over not seeing enough of us and there was I busting a gut to keep everybody 'serviced' and happy. Difficult indeed! My family are a busy lot with both parents working and attending all sorts of clubs and hobbies regularly. I sometimes get a bonus call to 'babysit' when some plan or other goes wrong but other than that the definites are birthdays and other celebrations. Visits between each other are totally by arrangement (of course) and, I think they know I would like to see more of them but.... I have the time and they don't. Furthermore, there are other GPs to be considered and they live at the other end of the country to me. I really think time pressure is huge for them nowadays. After writing this I'm doubly aware how lucky I am to see them at all!! Thank you.

There are so many factors involved that it's hard to judge really. I've mostly seen my grandchildren once a week over the years. They are all grown up now so it varies.

None of mine live an hour away so I can't really comment.

It is rather like asking how long is a piece of string as so many other factors could be involved.

Every couple of months

Our youngest daughter lives 60 miles away.When she was on maternity leave I used to go over once a week.We then had a period of time where we saw them every couple of months.At the moment we go over once a week to look after our grandson.He starts school next year so it will probably change again.We tend to let them let us know if they need our help and also to arrange any family outings.They both teach full time,have their friends and need their time as a little family.So long as they are happy we’re happy.

It depends on the GC age and whether mum is working. When everyone was at home with tiny children about once every two weeks, now nearly grown up GC very little and a text always welcome! you do have to go with the flow.

We see them all fairly often via FaceTime. In person during term-time about once a month, sometimes more often, sometimes less. We have three grandchildren aged under 5 and we see them when we see them. The one with siblings at school who also lives a bit further away visits us less often in person, but my husband occasionally travels over to see them. The one who is nearest has just stayed with us for a couple of nights and will be back next week for another overnight stay. The one who is an hour's drive away we talk to seven nights out of fourteen on FT and we usually meet up once or twice a month.

My sister sees some of her grandchildren every single day and one of my friends sees hers only once in a blue moon.

Nothing fixed in stone. That’s where problems can start IMO.
I see mine (1.5 hours away) possibly once every three weeks or month for about two days and the GC come and stay with me for 4/5 days in the holidays which is lovely for me as other DS is in Sydney. However I never ever want there to be any pressure on DS and DDIL about it.

I’d be interested to know why OP wants to know ?

It depends on each family.

I would agree with everyone here. It depends on your own circumstances.
I used to see a lot more of our local (and hour away) DGC when they were small - once a week approx but then they started school and now High school, I could see them more often but it's more like once or twice a month either here or there.

Further away DGC : I haven't seen the NZ one in person since the summer of 2018 and it doesn't look like anytime soon does it.

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My answer would be spasmodic. Sometimes a feast or a famine totally depending on what their committments are. I'm very aware of this as my own lovely Mum used to give me a hard time over not seeing enough of us and there was I busting a gut to keep everybody 'serviced' and happy. Difficult indeed! My family are a busy lot with both parents working and attending all sorts of clubs and hobbies regularly. I sometimes get a bonus call to 'babysit' when some plan or other goes wrong but other than that the definites are birthdays and other celebrations. Visits between each other are totally by arrangement (of course) and, I think they know I would like to see more of them but.... I have the time and they don't. Furthermore, there are other GPs to be considered and they live at the other end of the country to me. I really think time pressure is huge for them nowadays. After writing this I'm doubly aware how lucky I am to see them at all!! Thank you.

This sounds very similar to our situation. Our GCs are 11,12 and 13 so not tots any more. Of course we'd like to see them more often, but four or five times a year seems to be the norm at the moment. They're all busy people...

We look after our little grandson a couple of times a week and usually see him with our daughter another day. However we know this will change next year when they will be able to access free nursery care and also later when he goes to school. Also I suspect our daughter will want to go back to work full time rather than her present part time. We moved to be nearer to them, but with traffic the journey can take up to an hour each way. We've been fortunate to see him so much and build a great relationship with him. But totally accept we will see less of him in future. So long as they're all happy, that's good enough for us. Every family is different though.

I live just 15 minutes max drive , from all my grandchildren. I see the little ones about once a fortnight for about 2 hours and it’s usually on a Sunday (morning, at one house and evening at the other.)

Ours (are about a 1 1/4 hour drive away, and we usually see them about once every week or ten days. But this week I’ve been staying since dd is away for work so have seen them every day since Tuesday. Home tomorrow (knackered!) since the other GPs are coming to take over.

Our daughter and her family live an hour and a half away from us.
They used to come here fairly regularly but there are more commitments at home for them now eg swimming lessons, school, plus a new baby this year.

We had been going there and staying in the Premier Inn, but that meant we were at their house most of the weekend. My daughter's partner works away all week so we're conscious he needs his home and family time.

Earlier this year we bought a touring caravan. We've found a great site 15 minutes from their house. Last weekend we stayed there and at their invitation spent Saturday afternoon and evening at my daughter's house.
On Sunday they had a friend's lunchtime birthday party, then domestic things to do so we had the day to ourselves in the caravan. It was a nice balance.

We're going over for half-term week and our granddaughter is pencilled in for a caravan sleepover one night ?
We're thinking of going over once a month and I think it's going to work really well.

I think we re talking to ourselves

It is as long as a bit of string. No one publishes of tables showing length and regularity of visits plotted against distance.

Each family amicably works out what best suits them with the parents of the grandchild having the last word.

Do not become a grandparent from hell always comparing how much time they spend with their DGC with the other parent's family and complaining because it isn't equal to the millisecond. Accept what you are offered with grace and gratitude.