How often do you see GC 1 hour away?

Am about an hour 20 minutes away (if no tractor or motorway issues). I go to see DGD every week and have done for several years. They come down here 4 or 5 times a year.

I live about 45 minutes drive from my children so visit my 4 week GD on a Tuesday morning, then collect my grandson (he's 5)from school at 3.15 then drive him home where I stay overnight and spend the next morning with my other GD and then head off home.

I love it ( as do my children!)

We live just under 2 hours away from ours having moved away 4 years ago when we lived 10 minutes away.

We have 4 grandchildren aged between 7 and 14 . We see at least one child every school holiday for a few days alone ( more than one in the longer summer holidays) . Then we see them in pairs if their parents need us to have them for a weekend. We also see each family for a whole week in the summer holiday's.

On top of that we travel back for an overnight about once every 4 weeks.

So whilst we don't see them for an hour 'pop-in' we do see them for longer amounts of time than we did when we lived closer.

Thank you for your responses. I'm aware that all families are different and there's certainly no right or wrong, just whatever works for all involved. I was just curious to see what the most common answer was, and to see what might be considered too frequent or infrequent. I guess it's a tough one also because depending on mobility the distance is nothing to some but quite far for others.

I think it's very important (and polite) to do visits by arrangement and not just turn up no matter what the distance is.

Ours moved an hour away in July. We've seen them every 3/4 weeks since then, usually just a quick visit when they're doing the rounds to see others.

Before that they lived 5 mins away and we saw them at least twice a week and were very involved with after school care, inset days, sickness cover and sleepovers. Real quality time spent with them during which we built a special bond.

We're thankful we had them close to us for 8 lovely years. So long as they grow up being happy, that's the main thing to us.

We see ours about once a month to six weeks. We avoid visiting at weekends as I believe that is their time to be with each other.
We just send out a general invite to ours usually by text. ‘Anyone free for lunch on..’ type of thing. As for going to their homes, we wait to be asked. We are so lucky because they always make us so welcome.

They try to bring them up during school holidays or we will do a day out half way between us.

It is always easier if you have a good relationship with children and partners . When visiting our parents we alway got, “oh hello stranger” which put my back up.

I see mine 4 times a week and it was probably more before they went to School. I feel incredibly blessed and don’t take it for granted.

My Granddaughter lives 30 mins away, I look after her every Tuesday when my daughter works.
I will occasionally see her on a weekend when family come over for lunch, usually twice a month.

My daughter lives 30 mins away. I see my grandchildren every week as I help out with childcare. My son lives an hour away and I see my grand daughter once a month. Would like to see more of her but difficult as we are all working. I hope to spend more time with them once I retire.

My only grandchild lives 3 hours away, both his parents and I work during the week. They all have a very hectic social life so I see him two or three times a year

I am about similar position of Kim19. An hour or 3/4 of an hour away from them. We’re not going during covid. Started again . This time I am doing Monday as nursery is closed. From Monday to Wednesday or Thursday. Even mum is working from home sometimes. Afternoon school run, dinner, bath, homework. I enjoy it. But I feel the tiredness when I come back home. A day of rest then.

My GC live 55 mins away (on a good day!) and I look after my granddaughter one day a week, plus occasional babysitting. Other granny also does 1 day - save them a lot on childcare and we're happy to see our GC's. Also get together for all the "occasions" and try to go out with them (eg going to a farm or play centre etc) occasionally too.
Got my reward when went with mum and GD to collect GS from his new school and as he appeared in the playground he shouted out "look! There's my nanny, my nanny's here" with a wave and a massive smile. (... then dropped his bags and ran off to play with his friends!!) Granny bliss!

I see my granddaughter 3 times a week. Two times - childminding at her home (I leave at 6.20am and get home at 7pm) and one 4-5 hr social visit at my home (weekend). The journey is an hour.

My other grandchildren live 10 min by car and I see them 4 days a week. (Two child minding days at my home which includes school drop off and pick up) and two social visits at the weekend.

They are 11 months, 18 months, 21 months and 5yrs.

Our lovely child son lives just over an 1:15 hours away, his mum and dad work full time, as do I - we normally meet up at least once a month, call or FaceTime every week, and try and holiday altogether for a few days each year. Nowhere near as much as we’d like to see them, but they have other family to see and both DH and I have elderly parents responsibilities

One daughter lives twenty minutes away, but due to 3 days in nursery once or twice a week if I’m lucky. Recently not been so often due to all the colds and sick bugs being caught at nursery. I tend to leave them alone at weekends for their own family time. My other daughter with teenage children are an hour and a half away but I will visit maybe once a month. Anything less and I’d be disappointed, always seems to me doing the journeys due to sport and drama groups to fit in .

Mine live at the other end of the country but we facetime at least once a week and message when we need to.
It's enough for me after having a demanding MIL I had to move away from, they have their own lives to live.

I think we re talking to ourselves. LOL

Just have to play it by ear Are they asking for help for child care or are they wanting you to get a relationship with their granny and grandad it’s a difficult one We think that they need to spend time with their parents at weekend due to work commitments during week so never make demands to see grandchildren during then
Can only judge what’s right or wrong with individual family situations
FaceTime is a great tool and we use it lots to keep in touch Distance is also a factor so that’s a big thing that will cause problems Years ago families lived in same town same road but it’s not so common now Keeping in touch is very important and helping out if you can in any way they want you to and you feel you can goes both ways Good luck in finding what works for your family!!

I live about fifteen minutes (walking) from my daughter and my four grandchildren ( three gc, one step gd). I see them 3-4 times a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. She was a single mum for years with her first two and she and her partner have one between them as well as his little girl who has always lived with him. My daughter leant on me for support a great deal with her first two and does so now, I suppose as her in-laws are younger than me, still working and busy while I am retired. As I am on my own now I have plenty of time. My grandchildren regularly stay with me (in various combinations!) and I am happy to have them. I lived several hundred miles from my own parents and they sadly rarely saw my children as they did not like travelling and lived in a tiny rural cottage so staying with them was nigh on impossible and used to stress my mum greatly if we did. Similarly, I did not see much of my own grandparents as my parents moved away from their home town to the other side of the country when myself and my sister were small. I was always determined to be present and active in my gc’s lives, where possible (my daughter and her partner are are happy that I am so no friction!). I appreciate that many people would say I am TOO present in my children’ lives ( I have two other children but no other gc-yet!). but I am on my own by choice with two disappointing marriages behind me, am fit, active and happy at (nearly!) 65 and feel that I am a valuable part of the family network and I think that my children and grandchildren are always pleased to see me, as I am them!

Ours live a 10 min walk.
We are still being Covid aware with family not coming into our home fo 2 years. No hugs or family gatherings. Very sad but we’re are all keeping very. They do garden visits briefly 10 - 15 mins a couple of times a week. They did what’s app when COVID was new.
Don’t know if this helps. They have the other Grandparents 7 hours journey to see them and they sometimes stay there. I never ever criticise and only speak fondly of them.

As part of a bubble with my daughter’s family during various lockdowns, I usually saw them once a week either on Saturday or Sunday, depending on their commitments. We have continued with this routine, but sometimes they are busy all weekend and I may pop round in the week instead. I always wait for them to invite me, but sometimes I suggest going out for a meal or ordering a takeaway, and that might be on a different day. I am also on call for school pickup or babysitting now that the eldest two are living away or at Uni. As for my other two grandchildren, they live in Italy, so that is another story.

Mine all live in the U.S and Oz
So not very much. almost 2 years since I flew out to Oz and had quality time with my youngest grandchildren
Really heartbreaking

I see spell and grammar check has been busy on my post. Still you get the idea.
Best wishes to you x

I do childcare for my tinies. Pick up the oldest two from school twice a week, have my second youngest two days a week while his mum works (starting nursery so I’ll be on nursery pick up after that) and I visit my oldest daughter twice a week to give her a hand with the two young ones. I’m very fortunate to not be working while they are so little (widowed and just having some time to recover from caring ). I think I probably see my GC more than most.