Alienation from Grandchildren

Ive not seen my adult grandaughters for over 7 years, their choice not mine. Earlier this year I got a generic email from younger grandaughter out of the blue telling me that she had got married! I admit I was very upset that she didnt email me personally. I did reply to her and congratulated them both and never heard back from her. Over a month ago I got an email from my older grandaughter to tell me that she was 3 months pregnant, I replied and congratulated her and her husband and Ive not heard anything back. Im confused as they both made it clear that Im not part of their life yet both contacted me with their news. Their mother, my older daughter who Ive not seen or heard from in 7years sent me an email last year at the start of covid to see if I was ok, I replied never heard back so I emailed again only to be ignored!

You might find it helpful to join the Support for all those estranged thread Suzil974 where others have similar situations to deal with regarding grandchildren, as others have already suggested

FWIW you've done the right thing not trying to force contact with your GC Suzi.

We've been estranged from our son and only GC for almost 9 years so like Granniesunite, I understand how heartbreaking this is.

The best thing you can do it talk to others who know what you're going through because they are, or have gone through this too. Take a look at the support thread on the estrangement forum suggested by Granniesunite.

Knowing you're not alone can be surprisingly comforting at such a difficult time.

I'm sorry I don't have much in the way of advice on how to resolve the situation you describe. Except to say, focus on yourself and the things and people who make you happy.

How did it come to be that you discovered she had told lies about those things?

I’m sorry you’re in that position. It’s very very difficult.

I’m in the same situation myself and have been for a number of years. My love for my granddaughter and my yearning for her has not changed but I’ve had to learn how to adapt and change my way of coping with her lose and find other ways of taking care of myself and others. It all takes time.

There’s a thread on here SUPPORT FOR ALL LIVING WITH ESTRANGEMENT. It was invaluable to me in the early days. Have a look. Lots of good sound advice from caring and kind posters there.
In the meantime know that you’re not alone living this dreadful ordeal.