My in-laws heavily favour my sil. She is single and had a baby using a sperm donor. The in-laws have given her more than 500k in financial help and are very involved with her and her kid.
My husband has been trained his whole life by his family to accept sil as the favourite because her life has not “gone to plan”. He sees the blatant favouritism and even remarks to me “you think I don’t know my place” when speaking of his family.
My in-laws want more access to my kids. I am happy to see them on holidays and birthdays but don’t feel like seeing them beyond this. We see my family often and my family treats everyone equally.
My in-laws were recently upset with us because they feel we favour my family. And to be honest, we do. Why would we want to spend time with people who show they value sil more than us?
His family sweeps everything under the rug and wants to go back to business as usual. But I am uninterested in this. This means we won’t be vacationing together and we won’t be staying over at their house anymore. We will still see them maybe 10 times a year.
My husband doesn’t want to discuss the favouritism with them. But I do - I’m
Tired of seeing my husband and his other sibling treated like second class citizens. Furthermore if I ever witnessed favouritism between my kids and hers, it would be an immediate cut off.
Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this?
They don't really care do they
I am not a nasty person but ……
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages