Personality change

Your son and his wife are a team and they both probably got angry at you. Your son is the one approaching you about it, because typically thats how it works. The child goes to their own parent.

Its not necessarily about coming to their senses either. If you want a relationship with your grandchildren, you always must forge a good relationship with both the parents. Maybe you overstepped in some way. Did you apologize? Backing off is smart. But u don't back off in hopes they become less crazy or something. You apologize for whatever they're mad at you for, and then back off til they trust you again.

Maliandbryn2

Your son and his wife are a team and they both probably got angry at you. Your son is the one approaching you about it, because typically thats how it works. The child goes to their own parent.

Its not necessarily about coming to their senses either. If you want a relationship with your grandchildren, you always must forge a good relationship with both the parents. Maybe you overstepped in some way. Did you apologize? Backing off is smart. But u don't back off in hopes they become less crazy or something. You apologize for whatever they're mad at you for, and then back off til they trust you again.

Posters rarely believe their child to be on a team with the other parent, particularly a son. Why is that? Sons have as much say in their homes and childrens lives as the children's mum.

Maybe Norah some don't want to think their offspring is in a team with someoneelse - but some, (me included) feel we have been a great team with our parrners/spouse, know how great that is and hope our children have this too.

I really hope my children are part of a strong team. I want them to be solid enough to fight the world together, side by side if necessary!

We've tried to encourage to see all their romantic relationships as a team so when they get to having children, it isn't such a dramatic change in thinking.

Caleo

Esspee, I have experienced something of the sort though not a daughter in law relationship.

I came to the conclusion imaginary transgressions pertain to someone who needs to demonise you so they can legitimately feel okay about some way they know they are treating you badly.

I have come back to this thread as it was trending and discovered a few posts directed to me.
Thank you Caleo I believe you have hit the nail on the head.
Herfornow No not hallucinations as far as I know, just inventions of things that were untrue.
Thank you VioletSky, not severe mental illness, more like a personality disorder.