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VioletSky

I bet you wouldn't if someone didn't like it Norah

They were, I said it, thought better of it, allowed to our daughter "Oh well, apple and tree, eh? I'm sorry dear one."

Daughter is fine, I'm fine, it's been years. They outgrew that particular phase, moved on to teen *********s.

Tongues slip. I apologise for anything and everything hurtful I say, profusely. All is well in my world.

Always good to address these things quickly

I wonder if the first conversation needs to be with Adgm's daughter - mother-to-mother?
I don't understand why she didn't intervene when her children were potentially at risk. I do understand that the father is to blame for letting dogs out/children in but I would have expected her to back up the keeping dogs/children apart and then the OP would not have been policing alone.

Two adults working together could more likely have kept the rather juvenile dad in order!

Adgm

Exactly this - thank you! People need to read posts properly before jumping in. Because my daughter knows the dogs so well she knows they would never do anything without provocation. However watching my sil allow the boys to chase and jump on the dogs was just terrifying for me and he didn’t seem to be able to control the boys to make them stop. Thank you

With respect Adgm your story has changed vastly along the way there was no mention of your soon in laws behaviour in the first few posts that was only brought in when you were being criticised for your support of your dogs

You started by saying the children ‘disrespected’ your dogs’
You called them brats and your son in law saw you googling how to disciplined children

That is what most posters picked up on and answered, then you ‘remembered’ he had let the dogs out and chased them with the kids I would have expected that to be in your first original post as that is far more important than ‘disrespect by a 2 and 4 year old !!!’

Keep them well apart next visit, lesson learned hopefully

Surely this is a wind up thread!

I often think with relatives and friends its best to go back to my grandmothers rule of having a set time for the visit. She would say "come to tea on sunday from 2-4 pm" and she meant it! Visiters, no matter how dear to her, were not allowed to outstay their welcome or her ability to cope with them.

At 4pm the clock would chime and she would say. "Ah, four oclock already. Time for my nap. Thank you for your visit. I will get your coat." And she did!

We never thought it rude because they were her rules and we knew them in advance.