Grandson visit with girlfriend

I wouldn’t be comfortable with it. Night time visits to bedroom?

The thing is, young people will do what they are going to do

So it won't matter where they are

Better to have an open honest relationship with young people so that they can be advised on contraception etc and so that they can approach someone for help if needed. So that is the way a lot of parents play it now. Better to know they are safe than not know where they are and what they are doing

If the parents are ok with this arrangement, I wouldn't worry.

The girl is only 15 VS. So not under my roof.

It’s up to the parents !
My grandson remarked on his girlfriends snoring , I think he was trying to shock me

We'd not be pleased.

I seriously doubt we'd say yes, lacking a rational reason he had to stay. Perhaps if mum thinks this is a good idea she could offer up her spare rooms, be responsible for these children.

What in the world has this to do with offering advice on contraception? This grandparent is well and truly past that task.

I agree with Violet.

I'm not sure I would agree to it. The sofa suggestion is all well and good, but how are you going to police it at 2 am?

Germanshepherdsmum

I wouldn’t be comfortable with it. Night time visits to bedroom?

Me neither GSM. We must be old fashioned, too

CrazyMazy
You are being responsible and cautious, and there's nothing wrong with those 'old fashioned' values.

Not sure quite how I'd handle it, but maybe make it clear in the subtlest way possible that he stays on the sofa?... it seems a shame to lose the chance of a visit from your GS. You do have the blessings of the parents after all.

VioletSky

The thing is, young people will do what they are going to do

So it won't matter where they are

Better to have an open honest relationship with young people so that they can be advised on contraception etc and so that they can approach someone for help if needed. So that is the way a lot of parents play it now. Better to know they are safe than not know where they are and what they are doing

If the parents are ok with this arrangement, I wouldn't worry.

If the parents are ok with this arrangement, I wouldn't worry.

Well I'd probably be prowling around in the wee small hours just to be sure that they weren't wrapped around each other like Cadbury's Curly Wurlys - the girlfriend is 15.

I wouldn't be comfortable with it considering the girl's age ...under the age of consent. It might be old-fashioned and they can get up to whatever they want to Violet Sky but not under my roof where I am responsible.

Germanshepherdsmum

I wouldn’t be comfortable with it. Night time visits to bedroom?

Dickens Me neither GSM. We must be old fashioned, too.

I disapproves of sex outside marriage.

'Old fashioned' is my middle name. Serves me well.

Exactly. And chatting to them about contraception is basically giving them the green light despite the girl’s age. What would her parents and your grandson’s parents say if she just happened to get pregnant whilst staying with you? I imagine you’d be public enemy number one.

Well first of all it would depend how much I trusted my grandson to be a person of their word. You've known him for a long time.

If I did trust him

It would be a yes but only if it is absolutely spelt out by both sets parents to all concerned no visits to bedroom.

They might be lovely responsible young people and fun to have with you. Grandson is getting older and he would not have asked if he didnt want to come and see you - how many lads his age actively want to come and see Grandma?

Ladyleftfieldlover

I agree with Violet.

So do I.

If they are going to, they are going to. If the parents are OK with it, they are aware of the risks and couldn't balme you at all.

Much rather be under my roof than behind the bike sheds or some sordid place.

In my house it would be girlfriend in the spare bedroom and GS on the sofa - he having agreed that that is where he stays at night for the duration.

No ifs or buts.

What they do under their parents' roofs is their business.

I'm not sure why I posted "I disapproveS" - my point remains, I and many people disapprove of sex outside marriage, we won't be condoning such or advising birth control for GC.

If our children wish to go down the path to taking on responsibility advising their children on underage reproductive choices - good luck to them.

We're well and truly out.

As a few people have said, teenagers will do what teenagers do and if the parents are OK with it, then it's OK.

And, if the girl got pregnant, how on earth would anyone know it was what happened at your house?

For the first time ever I agree with Violet 😂
Yes I think I d rather them be safe at home, than fumbling in some back alley, however I would make sure my grandson knows that an unwanted pregnancy would mean 18 years of support I would also make sure the parents are truly on board and the girl isn’t just saying they don’t mind and yes it would be two separate areas and let your grandson know you are relying on his good sense and you do not expect him to let you down
( they ve probably done it already anyway 😂😂😂)

What if it were your 15 year old grandaughter wanting to come and stay with her 16 year old boyfriend?

Would the answers be the same?

The girl is 15, below the age of consent - I know the boy is only 16 but it is still unlawful.

And I wouldn't be facilitating sex between the two.

I'm pretty sure most young people would consider the idea of grandparents in bedroom a couple of years away next door possibly awake with door open would kill any passion they might be feeling...

Yards not years

And its being assumed by nearly everyone they intend to have sex.

Over reaction. Trust the parents.