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Apparent Lack of care shown

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NannySue45 Wed 14-Feb-24 16:05:31

My husband has prostate cancer and he (and I) get upset that our daughter shows no concern for his health. She never asks either of us how he is. She is so wrapped up in her own life that she doesn't appear to give us any consideration. It's hurtful.

ordinarygirl Sun 18-Feb-24 17:37:45

depending on the type of cancer many men will die with prostate cancer and not because of prostate cancer. So the daughter may not think that the illness is that serious.

MissAdventure Sun 18-Feb-24 17:39:42

Surely its normal to ask how someone, anyone you know, is?
If someone had a bad cold you would ask when you next saw them, or offer help if needed at the time.

Ikiesgranma Sun 18-Feb-24 19:24:16

I have terminal cancer and my children are always in touch to check how I am. My youngest daughter is the most stressed about it so on one occasion that I was admitted to hospital I told my husband not to tell her. When she found out she was really upset and made me promise not to keep anything from her again. I’m getting my latest CT results on Tuesday but I’m not reminding any of them about it.

MissAdventure Sun 18-Feb-24 19:32:19

Oh I hope your results are good.
It does get wearing, having to manage other peoples' reactions, I know.

nancynunu Mon 19-Feb-24 01:37:58

My 3 sons said or did nothing at all when I told them about my bowel cancer scare they never visit or call

acornlady Mon 19-Feb-24 10:15:52

8 years ago I was diagnosed with stage 3 oesophagal/stomach cancer. My daughter aged 31 with whom I had been very close seemed to withdraw from me. Needless to say, I was devastated by her attitude. She did visit me when I was in hospital, with her father when I had surgery. When I got the histology results saying that the surgeon had removed all the cancer I told my husband who phoned my daughter who was at work. She was hysterical and crying uncontrollably with relief and had to be sent home from work. So don't always assume that your daughter doesn't care about your husband.

AuntieEleanorsCat Mon 19-Feb-24 17:31:56

Where did NannySue45 go?