Mothers Day - interested in opinions

Hear, hear!
Plus I think sone people have lost sight of the relationship in question -*Mothering Sunday* - and while Dads should be helping and supporting their children in spoiling their Mums rotten, the Mother/Son/Daughter relationship should still be paramount! You never stop being a Mother- even long after the chicks have flown the nest and that can be celebrated by all the family.

Ohhh heck, difficult 1. Ok, I would think to spend time with his mum on the saturday and be with wife on the sunday ( Mother's day )

Then both are happy and quality time is spent. Personally I don't see a problem whatsoever in having 'Mother's day' on a day other than the Sunday, but that's just me.

No reason if local not to do both.Your son is still your son and you his Mum.The children should make a card for their own Mum.

If local, do a visit with the mom on the Saturday and have the Sunday with the wife and kids.

What happens on Fathers Day? Do we fairly reverse the priorities and celebrate our husbands as fathers first and foremost and give our own fathers a wee phonecall or text.

I think it his wife’s day, she is the new mum and his first loyalty is to her. My son did visit with a card and flowers for an hour or so which was lovely though and he also brought my DGD which was lovely. My DD just sent a text message! My own late DM used to create hell if we didn’t send a card and I am determined not to be like her. The word narcissist was created with her in mind.

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

I’m sure it is possible to see 2 people in one day, or speak on a phone or video linkup .

Well said nightowl and Rosies .

Grannieinatwist

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

What a world some people live in! So glad I don’t know anyone like that.

nightowl

Grannieinatwist

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

What a world some people live in! So glad I don’t know anyone like that.

Hear hear.

The mother of his children should take top priority so she should come first! But he should go visit his mum If at all possible take or send flowers or phone call

I certainly don’t agree he should enstrange his mum just because she doesn’t like his wife that’s ridiculous. He can marry who he chooses. Not his mothers buisness. Wow!

Oldnproud

nightowl

Grannieinatwist

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

What a world some people live in! So glad I don’t know anyone like that.

Hear hear.

Just to make other clear, in case it isn't obvious, I was agreeing with nightowl.

You'd better hope if you have a son and you don't like his wife Grannieinatwist that your son doesn't estrange you. That would really put you in a twist wouldn't it.

Grannieinatwist

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

Seriously? I hope you’re never disliked by an inlaw. 🙄

Dad takes his kids and mother out for brunch so his wife gets a lie-in

Why can't his mother behave like an adult and spend the day with her DS, DIL, and DGC?

Astitchintime

Why can't his mother behave like an adult and spend the day with her DS, DIL, and DGC?

If she is invited to do that, I imagine she would be very happy to do so. It does require the other adults in the equation to act like adults too, though.

Oldnproud

Astitchintime

Why can't his mother behave like an adult and spend the day with her DS, DIL, and DGC?

If she is invited to do that, I imagine she would be very happy to do so. It does require the other adults in the equation to act like adults too, though.

Of course Oldnproud, I just read the following: (and his mother doesn't like his wife so there's no option of all being together) and misinterpreted.

The son has picked a woman he loves, married and wants to spend the rest of his life with, yet his mother chooses to voice her irrelevant opinion of not liking her? So much so that she won’t spend mother’s day in her company?!

The mother sounds absolutely dreadful, so yes I absolutely would not blame the son for estranging her. How dare she treat his son’s wife like this.

I think that when I become a grandmother, I take a step back and priorities the women who are raising children right now

Of course I'd like to be thought of but wouldn't expect to take any of the day from them really

You know hardly anything about the mother Grannieinatwist apart from her not liking her d.i.l. You don't know why she doesn't like her, she may have a good reason, she may not.

If the son loves his mum and doesn't want to estrange her, why should he?

@Grannieinatwist her behaviour has been dreadful and has proved she can't be trusted when it comes to the well-being of my children. Myself and my 2 children are no contact (with full support from DH) and he is very low contact. He dropped a card off for her on the Tues and spent the day with me and his children, it was lovely.

@Chardy I wouldn't want to spend Mother's Day without my babies (besides one was only 8 weeks old on Mother's Day so it was my first Mother's Day with her and she is exclusively breast fed). Only my 2nd Mother's Day with first born daughter.