Feeling hurt

Youngest grandchild, a girl nearly 2, prefers grandpa. I am tolerated, unless......the young lady needs a cuddle, a hug, to be held. Seems I do these things better than grandpa. Recently she even started naming me, a privilege. I think we'll be fine 😊

Apparently I keep using the wrong language around my sons families. The last incident was that I called the son and 1 year old granddaughter doppy apparently. I don't remember doing this and there is no malice intended. It's language and sayings that I was brought up on which now aren't appropriate. I now feel that I want to keep away from them incase I cause offence,

I am currently going through s similar problem with my only grandchild a 5 year old boy. He has been quite ill with asthma during his early years and has spent a lot of time with his mum (my daughter) but is thankfully very well now. I am 76 and not likely to have any more grand children.
My grandson will pull faces at me and deliberately exclude me from any games he plays by saying Not you! When collecting him from school for the first time he said he didn't want to hold my hand as I was wrinkled! I am! but it was a bit of a shock to be told to my face! He always prefers his grandpa which is lovely but don't really understand. It is undermining my confidence to be frank although I try to brush it off as not bothering me. I am just hoping he will grow out of it before I am not around anymore.........

Does your daughter know he speaks to you like that?

I see this thread is from September so wondering how things are Babs03

My 5 yr old grandson prefers my DH he is much more fun than me and is brilliant at technic Lego with him and more boisterous games.

For the last two years my littlest GC spend 40% of time living with daddy and 60% my daughter and I have noticed when with mummy they are so clingy to her and on school pick up if we are there together I am ignored. I know it is because they struggle with separation anxiety from mummy and understand but I feel sad that my relationship with them has changed. They no longer want sleepovers with us which they previously loved. . I am grateful tho for being in their lives and my little grandson said the other day I have 3 houses gran, mummy’s, daddy’s and yours and both are loving to DH and I but circumstances have changed the balance of things.

Misadventure. Yes my daughter does know and always tells him that is not a nice way to talk to me. It doesn't seem to change anything unfortunately. He definitely prefers to be with the men in the family and of course my daughter. I do get a bit upset(quietly) though.

Hopefully he'll grow out of it, penelopejean.

Probably all the faster if he sees that his words have absolutely no effect. (At least on the surface)
My older grandson much preferred his other nan to me (she spoilt him rotten, let him win at everything, and is very well off, into the bargain!)

Thanks Missadventure. I hope so too.

Hi, I have a beautiful grand daughter who is just 9 months old.she has just started to have a temper tantrum if she is denied something she wants. Gets red on the face and clenched her fists. Seems very young to be doing this.99% of the time she is a very smiley happy baby. Any one else experience this,? Thank you

It sounds perfectly normal to me.
Babies are used to getting their needs met, until about that age, when they may have to wait, or not get everything they want.

So they're cross.