My husband and I recently moved back to the US after being overseas for the last ten years. We moved to the same city my daughter lives in and have been able to spend some enjoyable time together since we've been back. We've also helped her with work projects and helped get baby items she's bought on Marketplace, and thought we had a pretty good relationship. We live less than 2 miles from the hospital where she delivered, three days ago, and haven't been able to see him yet. Furthermore, she hasn't given me a time when they get home from the hospital when we can come visit. Her husband is on paternity leave for a couple of months and is a great cook. She said some things like she'll let us know when a good time would be after they get settled and into more of a routine--maybe a couple of weeks or more!! I just want to see my grandson! I've made it clear I'm available to help and do whatever they need. I've delivered their dog to the dogsitter and have done other errands. We want to see the little guy, and I feel left out. I want to let her know it's OK if she doesn't have it all together, and a routine with a newborn is not easy, if not impossible. Everything will be unpredictable for a while. I'm trying to be patient, but it being here so close and having the time--(I'm currently unemployed) is killing me. I just don't understand. It makes me feel like I've done something wrong, but I know I haven't. I never thought it would be like this. What can I do? It just makes me feel like crying. I guess it's different now, and we are so opposite. I would've loved for my mom to show interest and be around after I had my first baby.(the one who just gave birth). She lived across the country and didn't show me much attention then. She was a totally opposite kind of mother than I was. I'm embarrassed to tell anyone I haven't seen the baby yet because the assumption would be that there must be something wrong with you not being allowed that privilege. We were and are great parents to this girl---why the distance?
