Grandsons mum fallen out with her mum

I understand Judi as a GM who has never known her only GC due to being estranged from our youngest son and FWIW, I think it's admirable that you are empathetic and upset that the other GM is now being prevented from seeing her GC.

If this is a result of her having told her D that she's unable to look after him on her own, due to being restricted by disability, you would IMO be taking a risk raising the matter with the child's mother.

Doing so could impact your own contact with him and he could lose his relationship with both GM's. It's a very difficult and I'm sure upsetting position to be in .

Smileless2012

It can't be easy keepingquiet, knowing that the other GP's aren't allowed to see their GC when you can. I'd have found it hard if the boot had been on the other foot and we were seeing our GC but her parents weren't.

I was good friend's with ES's wife' mother before they met, which is how and why they met!!! She did quite literally bump into Mr. S. about 4 years ago; asked how we both were and if he would give her a hug. Maybe that was her way of asking if there was any bitterness on our part toward her for what had happened. They did share a hug .

I feel no resentment towards my DiL's mum, although she will always see her DD's side.

Now I see my GD regularly and know her other granny is unwell so I always ask after her, and my GD is quite free with the info she gives me.

I just find the whole thing very sad but I fear some families are just like that- they see the other family as a threat in some way. I find it very odd.

Chardy

Btw in some cases of abuse (not just sexual, but physical or verbal), lots of outsiders will say that they always thought that the abuser was a really lovely person.

Where the hell did that come from 🤷‍♀️

Where the hell did that come from goodness knows petra

It is odd and sad keepingquiet