New to this group and need support. We began to look after our first grandchild one day per week in September. Her other carers are DIL s Mum (half day), our son (1 day) and two full days at nursery. Plain sailing up to now. Last week she had Norovirus during the night and was looked after the following day by her other Gran. We were informed late on the day before we had her of the situation. We were not comfortable due to risk to us ( we are in mid 60s) but went ahead anyway. Result was us both catching it, myself particularly badly and still recovering a week on. We have subsequently said that whilst we would still look after her if she has a minor illness, anything involving vomiting and diarrhoea is a no and one of them will have to stay off work to care for her. This has unleashed a very hurtful response from our son who said he was very hurt that we were of this opinion and the other Gran wasn't like that, that we weren't old and just playing the health card (my husband had a heart attack a year ago) and putting words in our mouth by saying that she would probably often have loose stools in future and what were they meant to do if we weren't prepared to look after her? I said that there is a big difference between Norovirus and a mild tummy upset. He accused us of having no empathy. I defended our stance but it has taken its toll on me and we feel very upset at their lack of compassion towards us.
