How far is too far?

We live 2 hours away from one DD and GC, slightly less away from our other DD and GC, and our son and other GCs are in Australia.
I would say you are extremely lucky if you live just 35/40 mins drive away.

Hi just one grandchild, he’s 11, they live in Hertfordshire and it takes over 1.25 hrs on a good day, yes it would be lovely to live closer, but it’s not the ends of the earth.

My elder son lives in Bristol and has no intention of ever moving back to Essex and if he ever starts a family (unlikely) we will be 5 hours away by car.

Our other two daughters are looking to buy their first properties locally, so if they have children (they are both lesbians) we will be close by.

Tbh, I’m just grateful my children live in this country not in Australia or NZ!

Two GCs a four hour drive away which I don't attempt and only travel by train.

I see them really only in the school holidays and sometimes not even then.

One GC lives much closer- a 30 min drive now on Sundays and I consider that close by. Her dad has just taken her home. I see her every week and it is wonderful.

One in NZ (30 hours door to door) one in Europe a 3 hour journey to the airport an hour and a half flight and a hour the other side ( plus lots of hanging around) and then one nearby
It is what it is

In answer to your title question, no where is too far as it’s their decision where they want to live in adult hood

One grandchild so far, 2 hours away. See him once a month or a bit more.
If the others have kids they are likely to even further away but I can’t do anything about where their careers/ partners are.

It’s a real blessing, luck and great comfort to me, that my 3 DC, their families and the extended families, all live within a 15 - 20 minute drive .
However, they have their lives and I have mine. I probably see them on an average once every fortnight.

I am not sure why you are asking Foxgloveandroses do you want to move closer to them or do you think they should move closer to to you?

We live 5 hours from our Gds. Now they are at university we don ‘t see them often.

Three flights + drives equalling about 18hrs to one set. 10-12hr drive to second set. Seven minute drive to third set. 5/6 hr drive to fourth child, no GC there, though.

I live 20 minutes from my eldest, two hours from the youngest, and 5000 miles from the middle one!

Too far for who?

We live 10 mins from one AC, 40 or so from the other and happily do Grandparenting duties for both. Now they are older GS1 and GD1 travel by train to our nearest station to save us the drive on occasions too.

One set live five minutes away by car, but I'm usually picking one of them up from the school train which is more loke fifteen minutes. The other one is either staying with me or with his mother which is about twenty minutes away.

BlueBelle

One in NZ (30 hours door to door) one in Europe a 3 hour journey to the airport an hour and a half flight and a hour the other side ( plus lots of hanging around) and then one nearby
It is what it is

Yes ❤️

Both pairs of DGCs live three minutes' drive away, in opposite directions.

Four miles and fourteen miles.

Posted too soon.
Delighted to have moved so close, not that I see them that often.
They will move on, as far away as they choose, it’s not for me to say.

It has never been something people had any choice over. Life seprates people or brings them together depending on multiple fators.

Our son and family live a four hour drive away. He is tied by his work and, now he is married his wifes family connections, we have commitments and friends and other family close to where we live.

i do not think there is any right or wrong distance, just what life presents us with and we adjust to deal with it.