Hi there, am wondering what others in my position feel about this. I have been retired for 4 years. The first two years were spent caring for my M in L who thankfully got through breast cancer and is now able to care for herself ( not alone, F in L still there with her). I then had a year relatively free to begin to enjoy retirement. Then daughter got married and had a baby, she is living far from friends and has relied on me heavily though these first 10 months. It is a 40 mile round trip and I have been going over at least twice a week, sometimes more. She now has to return to work and the nursery costs are huge. Child minders costs are less but she can only get two days. So she has decided to have two days child minder, one day nursery and has asked me to cover the other two days - Tuesday and Thursday
I really want to help out but it is a huge commitment, the journey alone is horrendous. A seriously congested A road, a motorway and then a One track lane for two miles. On a good day in the rush hour it takes 45 minutes. On a bad day up to an hour and a half. I would have to leave my house at 7am to get to hers by 8. Since agreeing to do this I am getting anxious and emotional about it. The cost of diesel, driving tired in heavy rush hour traffic, leaving my dogs at home etc. Am I bad for feeling guilty about these feelings? Anyone else have to do this too?
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