Can anyone help me overcome the feeling of guilt that my 40 yr old son seems unable to "disconnect" from me? Now he is seeing a therapist who has told him he needs to stop ringing me for advice and support all the time. His (live in) girlfriend of 4 years has left him, saying she is looking for a man to be the father of her children, not a boy. Others have left him before, finding him moody, critical and distant. I feel so guilty that I have never succeeded in emphasising the fact he should trust his own decisions, he is clever, capable, funny and well liked, but he says he still feels like a child inside, frightened of everything, and now lonely and despairing. How can I best help him - by cutting off completely? We have two other children, a disabled daughter who is wonderfully independent, and a younger son, now a father himself. Does anyone know of any books I can read to move myself on from guilt and sadness at the waste of his young life? Has anyone else any experience of this, or is it only me?
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