Why can't they cope?

I saw this first hand yesterday when out with friends. A long arranged evening we had all been looking forward to and a phone call to our friends as soon as we got there. Some really minor household (and I mean minor) annoyance seemed to have resulted in a meltdown with a hysterical DD that spoiled the rest of the evening. I actually questioned why a grown woman would need to phone her mother for some trivial incident.

So yes, I really wonder about the coping. Is it learned behaviour? Why can't so many learn to stand on their own feet? Or is it just me?

Whatever happens these young mums must have " their " time. What ? It's this selfish and self-centred society that we live in.
If all they can think of is time to themselves then they clearly shouldn't become parents until they're 40 !

Has she spoken to her partner to agree what tasks to share?

What really amazes me is she worked in a nursery for 8 years so knows how to take care of 20 children at a time. I have to give her some credit though, she has Aspergers syndrome and has coped with adult life really well, it's just the moaning over who does more for the child. They bicker like kids.

I know what you mean. One of my AC grumbles about having to take her children around without a car during the day (partner takes it to work) and generally about how hard and relentless looking after children is! She was angry earlier this year that I was not around to help because I am recovering from a serious illness!
However they have had bags of support from both families, that we didn’t have,and further more we didn’t expect it!
My DH and I were not able to go out without the children in the evening until they reached their teen years!
My father was ill when I had the older two, so that my mother stated firmly that they could not cope with baby sitting of any kind. I am an only child so no helpful siblings! and both parents were only children too, so ditto aunts and uncles.DH’s step mother hated children,so no offers of baby sitting from that quarter! and his mum lived too far away!
Still we just got on with things; and if we really wanted to do something in the evening (like the open air Shakespeare) we either had to go solo or bring the kids!

The younger generation wants it all - babies, a nice home, holidays, days out, the latest mobile 'phones, etc., etc. I'm 59 and stayed at home with my 2 sons whilst my husband worked long hours. We had a mortgage (council mortgage so no deposit), and it was a struggle. We never went out anywhere without the boys.

TELL your daughter to stop whining. She doesn't know how lucky she is to have what she's got.

She goes to university one day a week while I have dg. She has an active social life with DG so is never at home during the day, she often pops in here too. I can't even drive so never had that luxury, we had to walk everywhere. Her partner moans that she gets to spend all day with him while he's at work and he misses out on a lot of things. They seem to be fighting over who has it easiest all the time.

The young adults these days do seem to have higher expectations than we had.

I moved to Holland when our daughter was 4 months old. I knew no-one, did not speak the language and my husband had a taxing job. I had no car and no telephone so I bought a bike and I just got on with it.

Were we made of sterner stuff. I am not sure but as far as I see they have it easy these days but want more. It can be lonely and hard work with a young baby but it doesn't last long and it is a pity she is not enjoying him as she should. She is very lucky to have one day off a week when you look after him.

Withdraw some of the support....how will they ever become adults otherwise?