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We meet up with both grandparents but they are divorced so not as a single unit. Other Grandmother lives in Spain but comes to stay with my GC and family when she is over. She is easy going so nothing to dislike. Granddad lives in the next town with his new wife and we only see them occasionally but no problems there. I must admit as a family unit we are quite easy going. My GD just takes in her stride that she has three grandmothers plus two aunties that are a couple (as opposed to a man and a woman). They are born in a modern age.

I feel quite guilty as we have no problems at all. One set live nearby and we often have to hand over one DGS or the other and always have a chat. Until lockdown we all went out together at least once a year to a concert or something that wouldn't have been to the taste of our children.

The other set of in-laws we are also fine with. They were going to visit us before lockdown put a stop to that. That Dil's mother has remarried but her dad and stepdad get on fine and sat next to each other and were chatting amiably at the wedding and on other family occasions since.

I have led a very sheltered life I suppose as I have never experienced any animosity within the family.

Have two DGC, and have met both sets of grandparents. Good relationships.

We have three sets. DD1 is divorced, but we see the in-laws occasionally., and meet up with the Ex when we go to Australia.The in-laws think that the sun shines out of their DS, and we know that they think that the break-up was all our DD’s fault, but we get along ok.
DD2 lives in Australia, and her DH is Peruvian. We all stayed with the ‘children’ for 2 months when they got married. The in-laws speak only Spanish, but we got on well, and coped with the language difficulties. I doubt that we will have the chance to meet again, but keep in Facebook contact.
DS 3 also lives in Oz. I spend a lot of time with the whole family of in-laws when I go for 3 month stays, and have a very good relationship with them
I met DS1’s FIL a few times, before he died, and liked him.
My children have all got along well with their in-laws, for which I am truly grateful.

Yes we have. One set are really nice & we get on very well. The others are OK - he is very nice but she is a bit over bearing. When the grandchildren arrived she was all over them- wanting to always be the one who held them etc. I just let her get on with it as I knew I would see just as much of the DGC as she did in the long run. Sure enough it was us they wanted to stay with when they got old enough to choose who to stay with. She has 2 other daughters so has plenty of DGC now anyway.

I've met one set once but schedules mean don't see them. We all work shifts and they mean we don't see each other. Wouldn't really go out of my way though to meet up. Have never met my other grandsons. Not sure I really want to. They are divorced and from what I've heard they don't get on. Relationship with step mum sounds iffy in the past. I've had enough problems in the past don't really want to get involved in other people's troubles.

NO ,,,since my daughter cut me out of her life (for what reason I cannot find out !) her mother in law (the other G.P.) puts photos of things related to the grandchildren on Facebook ....but I know where she is as I did some research and still send cards on her birthday, Christmas, etc ...........although sadly since I have never been officially informed of the (at least one) grandchild I cannot send anything for him/them .......would like to see them just the once ...........

My son-in-law is American and my youngest daughter moved there just before they were married. I met my son-in-law's parents before the wedding when they came to England on holiday.
The next time we met was at the wedding in America; they introduced us to their large extended family and made us feel so welcome. We met again the next time we visited our daughter in Washington - they drove down from Ohio especially to see us.
When our grandson was born we went to stay and help for the first two weeks and then the other set of grandparents took over for the next two weeks. Since COVID struck we've only exchanged birthday and Christmas cards and spoken on Skype a few times, but it is difficult to maintain a relationship at such a distance. I also don't feel we have a lot in common - they are both Trump supporters!

My oldest daughter lives with her boyfriend and he has a very strange family. I've only met his mother and stepfather once when we were invited to a party at their home. He doesn't speak to his birth father, so we haven't met him yet. He has a twin brother, who is rude and obnoxious, taking great delight in upsetting as many people as possible at this party, especially his mother. There was also a grandmother, who made everyones life a misery when she came to stay, so much so that my daughter has never been invited to spend Christmas with her 'in-laws'. So she and her boyfriend have always come to us.

We're very good friends with two of the three sets of grandparents. We exchange cards & gifts for birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas, occasional phone calls, they visit when they can. We have met the third set of GPs but don't keep in contact with them as our DIL would definitely disapprove - very long story.

The other grandparents only live two streets away. Although they are always polite when we see them out and about, we have only been inside their house once in the 20 years of their daughter being our son's partner. They obviously think they have nothing in common with us (apart from our gorgeous granddaughter!) and don't want to be considered as family. I do find this peculiar and hurtful but after so many years of failed attempts at getting closer, I realise we just have to accept its not what they want. Sad.

I live with the other grandmother, purely for convenience

Have only met the other GPs a handful of times in 15 yrs and one of those was at the wedding ? DD and GC father are in process of getting divorced but his family have never shown interest in mingling with ours.

Yes and get on very well with them all. We spend Christmas day with my eldest son inlaws as they have a big house.

Both my DiL mom and I are widowed 3 years and 2 years ago, when we were both young (50s). Even though we got together before we were widowed at Christmas it makes perfect sense.

I find the question odd as I would presume you would have met them before becoming grandparents. Though I suppose I'm thinking if they got married

Having said that my 2nd son and ex DiL never married and we knew DiL parents before they had their son. They don't live locally either

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Meet the other grandmother of my grandson. Unfortunately they are all dead now.So just us left.

We've not seen our DGC's 'other' grandparents for about 8 years. We have little in common and they have never been inclined to keep in touch with us. DD and DSiL don't see much of them either!

My daughter in laws Mum became one of my closes friends even before grandchildren.. We are spookily similar with our views and tolerence levels. We have days out together. We share our family events. But we also have our own time with the grandchildren. My son in laws parents are polite when we meet but remain distant. I guess we are all different.