dealing with sad and happy news at the same time..

I missed this earlier, biker. Your feelings must be a bit tumultuous at the moment

Biker you're a star and such a special part of Gransnet.Sending you lots of lovexx

Dear Biker now difficult for you all, and for you especially, having to deal with both joy and sorrow. Much love, and virtual support. Xxx

Biker

biker I can only echo what everyone has already said, for your sadness and congratulations for your unexpected joy to come.
Look after yourself ((hugs))

So sorry to hear your news biker I remember that my MiL had managed to stay in denial about the seriousness of my FiL's condition until the nurses moved in and it all became very real.

How lovely to have a new GS on the way though. My GS1 was 7 when his brother was born and I had presumed that DD had decided that one was enough so he was a lovely surprise for me. It will be hard when you think how OH would have enjoyed him but I am sure he will be a great consolation as well.

[Flowers] for you Bikergran,keep that chin up and take every day as it comes,will be thinking about you in the future weeks and months.

thankyou again all of you for your kind words,

the mattress is now sorted (well until Monday when they will change it back over again) this one has a loud pump! Sounds like the QE2 funnel! not that iv been on the QUE2!

biker my cousin had one of these mattresses and the noise was awful, we stuffed a pillow up the back of the gubbins to stop it rattling against the bed end.

Hope your new mattress is more quiet You sound a very caring and strong lady who is supporting her OH and her DD. Positive thoughts are sent your way

Biker I have just seen this thread and my heart goes out to you. Your position so reminds me of when DH's band mate was in a similar situation - home from hospice with McMillan nurses round the clock. His DD arranged to be married to her long term partner at his bedside as he had been nagging them to marry, especially with a baby on the way. On his bedside table he had a framed copy of their scan, the expected baby boy already named after him. When baby arrived safely DD returned to work quickly and his newly widowed Granny, free of caring responsibilities, was able to lavish love and attention on her new DGS. Cycle of life indeed.

Story should end that the little lad was the image of his DGF but in fact he is blonde and blue eyed like his father, but seems very musical which he will have inherited from his DGF.

So sorry to hear your sad news biker

Ah, Biker I'm sorry to hear about the emotional time you're having. Having a new baby in the family will bring joy to all of you. My sister knew about her first great-grandchild, but she died a couple of weeks before he arrived, complete with the same dimple on his chin as his great-grandmother, which caused some smiles. A sad time for you - you're right, the new baby can still be anticipated and talked about to ease things for you and Mr Biker

Biker You still have your sense of humour and that will help get you through the coming weeks. Your new grandson will keep you focused during the down times. {{hugs}}

Biker - my heart goes out to you and Mr B. What a turmoil your feelings must be in. I'm sure that the thoughts of the new little one will help you to get through the bad days.[flower]

Bitter sweet indeed. to you both bikergran.

BIKER ---good karma to you and yours!!

XXX

Thinking of you this morning, feeling the same as all other gransnetter.

I have read through this thread and, although I went through a similar experience with my FIL many years ago when both myself and his DD were pregnant, I really do not know what to say. So I will just send a big hug and hope you are helped by all the Gransnet love that is being sent your way.

Thinking of you

Dear biker there is little I can add to the many messages of support and comfort except to echo th and wish you the strength you need for the days ahead. A new life when it comes will be something to celebrate but for now you all have other things on your mind. It is a glimpse of the future though when we consider that next generation. Love to you all

just wanted to let all you lovely kind people, that Mr Biker is no longer with me, we sat with him as he went to sleep 11-45 pm last night, I am here looking at his empty bed and I am absolutely distraught as it was me that put the morphine patch on that sent him into his sleep, why do I feel like I have ended his life! In the last half hour before he went he kept waving to someone as though they were stood at the bottom of the bed..I know some will say, what on earth am I doing on GN at a time like this, but everyone has gone home now and I feel so alone.
I know in time I will get better.

Oh bikergran,, I am so so sorry to read your news. Just cannot find the words to comfort you- but you are in my thoughts. Please please do not feel guilty- your dear DH was in pain and the patch helped him to not suffer as he left this world- and this is the very best you could do to help him.

Huge hugs and try to get some sleep and rest.

I'm so sorry to hear this, bikergran. You must have such a mixture of emotions going on right now. Be sure your DH died knowing he was not alone and you must take comfort in the fact that it was peaceful and you did all you could to help him.

I think it was a good idea to let us all know what has happened and you are not alone. There is usually someone on here even if it is late.

Take your time to come to terms with your sad loss. Talk to us all on here if it helps.

and love.

bikergran, so very sad for you. Sending you a huge GN virtual hug. Xx